[DawnCrimson]

The friend I had infatuation about is now dating after he rejected me. I am trying to be positive he is still sort of in my life, but we live in the same region so I could see them anywhere. I used to seek resort at certain quiet places, and obviously those are where lovers tend to go. I know it is unreasonable, but I pleaded if he could avoid being at certain places I have to be. He said I had no right to tell him what to do and told me I am overacting. My heart brokenness have to be covered in shame. Everything I have done is wrong.
I am being unreasonable. But I have had this intense feelings towards him for two years and it takes time to heal. I thought we are very important to each other and he would care to make me feel less hurt. I feel he becomes a different person after he started dating and is cruel to other friends, not just me. Maybe I am just a bad influence and worth abandoning.
Of course, a romantic interest is important, and sometimes more important than a long-time friend. But how could I stop my heartbroken feelings when I could risk seeing the stimulus of him anywhere. There is no place that feels safe, and I have few other friends to talk to.
Please don't judge me...I need time...

[ComfortablyNumb5]

I replied to your first post about this and said to leave him alone and give him space since you've made threats at him when he put down your attempts. You're still chasing after him and now you say it's been 2 years that he's been telling you "no"? I mean this with the best of wishes, it's time you seek therapy. It's clearly becoming obsession to you and you're not even comfortable going out in public in fear you'll see him and his new gf. You're letting your life revolve around someone who told you no from the start. Get help.

Dx: BP2, PTSD, bulimia/anorexia
Risperdal 4mg
Trileptal 300mgs
Buspar 45mgs
Ativan 1mg PRN
Vyvance 70mgs PRN

[Artchic528]

Just so you know, its obsession not love you feel. It's an unhealthy attatchment. Like RX said, get help.

Obsession is a deadly game.

[DawnCrimson]

Originally Posted by RxQueen875

I replied to your first post about this and said to leave him alone and give him space since you've made threats at him when he put down your attempts. You're still chasing after him and now you say it's been 2 years that he's been telling you "no"? I mean this with the best of wishes, it's time you seek therapy. It's clearly becoming obsession to you and you're not even comfortable going out in public in fear you'll see him and his new gf. You're letting your life revolve around someone who told you no from the start. Get help.

Dx: BP2, PTSD, bulimia/anorexia
Risperdal 4mg
Trileptal 300mgs
Buspar 45mgs
Ativan 1mg PRN
Vyvance 70mgs PRN

Thanks for your honest opinion. I apologize for not explaining it clearly, but he did not reject me in the beginning. He told me he was not aware of my feelings until 2 weeks ago. That's when the rejection happened. We know each others for two years but did not become close friends until half a year ago. Originally I was not hopeful but I treasured my feelings towards him because I don't feel like this for others before. I did not have much expectations. I agree that my feelings are unhealthy and obcessive. My feelings were intensified by loneliness and I believed they were valuable. I kept them to myself to escape from reality and judgements.

Six months ago he approached me to be friends. He now says it was out of sympathy. There are things that I can only talked to him about. Over time I misintepreted some signals and became more and more hopeful that it is not one-sided. Two weeks ago I made the move to confess my feelings. Things have gotten dramatic since then. I am not myself anymore.

I am contacting my therapist and hopefully will calm down and grow to be more self-fulfilling.

[ChipperMonkey]

You don't want to be friends with someone who offers you friendship out of sympathy. I realize that you have your own struggles, but I do think that you deserve to have friends who like you for who you are, and not just want to be friends with you because they feel bad for you.