It's been a really rough week and I could really use some support right now. I don't know if it's just this time of year, but seems like crap always hits the fan around Christmas time. I'm working towards opening my own business and my dad is extremely unsupportive and doubtful and just destroys my dream and fills me with doubt. Within the past few days it seems like every ex is coming out of the woodwork.... And they're all in relationships and doing well, while I'm over here single and getting slapped in the face with a 2x4 by life! I made a mistake and missed an appointment that was important to my future business. I haven't been as good of a mom as I feel I should be, mostly because I'm just so stressed and so sad right now. I just keep trying to have hope and remember that this too shall pass and that the night is always darker before the dawn, every storm runs out of rain, and all that. But I just feel the pressure building and building and I just want it to alleviate already!!

[yagr]

Originally Posted by amanda52686

It's been a really rough week and I could really use some support right now.

I don't know if this response will be the type of support you are looking for, but know that it is the reason for me typing.

Originally Posted by amanda52686

I'm working towards opening my own business and my dad is extremely unsupportive and doubtful and just destroys my dream and fills me with doubt.

Live your dream. I will caution you on two fronts. First, failure is often part of the journey to success. If you do fail at first, it does not mean that your father was right. Second, we are changing every moment. Be open if your dreams change. Often people hang on to a dream after they have an even more beautiful dream because they are trying to prove something to someone.

I have done everything I ever wanted to do in life. I've been told things were impossible, but did them anyway. If you refuse to fail, the Universe has a way of having your back.

Originally Posted by amanda52686

Within the past few days it seems like every ex is coming out of the woodwork.... And they're all in relationships and doing well, while I'm over here single and getting slapped in the face with a 2x4 by life!

You're a mom, an aspiring business owner, and seeking a relationship. You can do anything you want in life but you can't always do them at the same time. Prioritize. Not someone else's priorities - yours.

Originally Posted by amanda52686

I made a mistake and missed an appointment that was important to my future business.

Everyone makes mistakes. Often they are fixable; sometimes they are not. If it isn't fixable, let it go. If it is, then by all means fix it. If necessary, and it'll help you move forward, eat some crow.

Originally Posted by amanda52686

I haven't been as good of a mom as I feel I should be, mostly because I'm just so stressed and so sad right now.

I've never met a bad parent who beats themselves up for being a bad parent. Bad parents don't care that they are bad parents. Only good parents worry about that. You are human. Being a parent is tough. Being a single parent is tougher - I know, I was one. Forgive yourself for not meeting your expectations. If you are sad and stressed then you can't do as well as when you are not sad and stressed - but you can always do your best.

I'm disabled now with a severe auto-immune disease, a muscular disorder, six crushed vertebrae, extensive nerve damage, kidney disease, heart disease, and the list goes on. I take twenty-two prescriptions a day. Today's best is not near as good as twenty years ago - but it is still my best.

Originally Posted by amanda52686

I just keep trying to have hope and remember that this too shall pass and that the night is always darker before the dawn, every storm runs out of rain, and all that. But I just feel the pressure building and building and I just want it to alleviate already!!

I know. I get it. Don't ever give up. You're a fighter - I can feel it. The pressure will pass when it passes - not when we want it to. Make up your mind that no matter what life throws at you, you aren't going down...and you won't.

[gayleggg]

Hang in there. The holidays won't last forever. Just try to keep your eyes on your goals.

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[FireIsland123]

You HAVE been a good mom! You are fighting for their future as much as your own. I wonder if your father gets that. As for your ex's, they're somebody else's problem now. Appearances can be deceiving. Yes, this is a tough time. The holidays. Why isn't our life like all the happy families on TV gathered together with joy? Because our life isn't a TV fantasy. It's reality. And if you take reality one dose at a time, its much easier to deal with. ( except like me when both the car AND the furnace craps out on the same day). You're a great mom, right? Best wishes for next year. Hoping things will come together for you very soon.

Sorry to hear about your car and furnace. I know this can be a very difficult time for a lot of people. Praying that everything works out for you and you have a merry Christmas and a happy new year!

Originally Posted by FireIsland123

You HAVE been a good mom! You are fighting for their future as much as your own. I wonder if your father gets that. As for your ex's, they're somebody else's problem now. Appearances can be deceiving. Yes, this is a tough time. The holidays. Why isn't our life like all the happy families on TV gathered together with joy? Because our life isn't a TV fantasy. It's reality. And if you take reality one dose at a time, its much easier to deal with. ( except like me when both the car AND the furnace craps out on the same day). You're a great mom, right? Best wishes for next year. Hoping things will come together for you very soon.

[healingme4me]

Just wanted to send some hugs.

Is the missed appointment fixable?

I'm empathetic to not receiving proper support from a parent, my father specifically. I don't believe he has the proper emotional/empathetic filter necessary to be that supportive parent to me. Took tremendous work in and out of therapy to reach that conclusion and acceptance. I hear you about exes and contacting out of nowhere. Must be something rather special about you, for that to occur.
It's a stressful time of year, I myself have felt more melancholic than I'm accustomed to during this time of the year, financial stress adds to the equation, for sure.



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