Signs a GUY is an abusive relationship

What are some signs a guy is in an abusive relationship? not physically abusive necessarily,but otherwise?

They are pretty much the same signs as any abusive relationship. The abuser tries to control you, puts you down, makes you question your choices, makes you feel bad about yourself.

Contrary to what many people believe, men DO get abused by women in relationships, both physically and emotionally.

Are you talking about how to know if someone else is in abusive relationship? Not you? You might never see any signs or signs might be misleading. Unless you are actually there observing them two, I am not sure how you can know

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Yeah,i agree. I just feel the signs might be slightly different. Mostly,the person just BEING different and not seeming as happy anymore.

Yeah,like how to know if someone else is that's a guy. I've seen some things that are suspicious to me but he denies it.

He might be uncomfortable with your questioning if you two work together. If someone asked if I am being abused because I didn't seem as happy ( could be for any reasons) or they get some vibes, I'd be offended. Or he is embarrassed if it is true. How close are you two?

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I didn't ask and we don't work together. We are very close.

Oh I see. You said he denies it, I mistakenly thought somebody addressed it with him otherwise how does he deny it. My bad. I really don't know what to say. Unless he wants out of that relationship I don't know really how to help. If you start pushing him to leave her, you might come across jealous. If you two are close he will eventually open up. Other people's relationships are a mystery. One really doesn't know what's going on behind closed doors. I am kind of confused on the whole situation like her being sexually possessive. Like how? I assume they are monogamous and dont want to share each other. The whole thing is confusing

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I addressed that his behavior changes seem because of her,and he denied. I don't think i asked him if he's in abusive relationship,though and if i did i forgot. The only thing to really do is detach and pray. That is true,eventually he will open up. They are sexually monogamus,at least now. When he met her,he was technically married and well,spending a lot of time being with his wife and still considered with her if you know what i mean,i'm sure sexually and spending time,etc,etc but he was actually cheating on her with several other women throughout and met this girl he is seeing now that way. I don't know what kind of girl would keep seeing a guy knowing he is still married and cheated several times. I personally find that very odd. I'm one of those people who is all for exceptions to the rule,and that love comes when it comes and it's not always convenient but this,to me is not that kind of exception. I find the whole arrangement to very odd. On one hand,they seem like they both could be ok with a polyamourous relationship but then on other,they seem extremely co-dependent and she does get jealous and insecure and is very sexually possessive. Honestly,in my opinion,it's a mess. I'm starting to think maybe it isn't an abusive relationship however,theres definitely some odd things going on that are unhealthy.

Hmmmm, let's see....he was married & cheating on his wife with this other woman then cheating on her with several other women???? & there is nothing about his behavior that's abusive to the women he's seeing?....& he's happy living the way he's living? Maybe his lifestyle is where his unhappiness is coming from?

If a woman feels she's been abused sometimes she fights back & it can look like abuse from the outside because she is fighting back & not quietly taking the abuse rather than getting out of the relationship

This man sleeps around and repeatedly cheats and he clearly lacks moral character. And you are concerned if he is being abused?

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No,this girl he is seeing knew and kept seeing him. That makes it her choice. I am not sure if he cheated on this girl or not,but honestly if she knew he cheated on someone that's his wife with several women including her,then i don't see why she should get any empathy. Why not feel bad for the wife? He does have unhappiness but I care for him deeply despite his mistakes. Though I think his relationship is flawed,I do think he could find someone if he gave himself time to work on himself but instead he's doing the whole "she's different" spiel but i'm more of a believer that you need time and space to heal from things. I worry for him because some of the things he does make me confused and I do wish he would consider psychotherapy.

Yeah,but what kind of a girl stays with a guy who she knows is married and has cheated several times?

I am curious as to why you have so many dramatic people in your life. Does that get exhausting?

Is it honestly any of your concern? I'm curious as to why you seem to want to insert yourself into other people's problems. I think you can support your friend, but beyond that, analyzing his behavior, her behavior, and so on isn't really going to get you anywhere.

Actually as just a friend the flawed choices he keeps making in his life with no desire to change is really none of your concern....chances are he wouldn't listen to a word you say in the first place since he seems so caught up in his flawed life style...happy or not....& anyone wether they choose to stay given they know the situation or not have a RIGHT to react to the situation they are in. It has nothing to do with empathy or not when one only uses their emotional mind rather than their logical mind or neither would be in the situation they are in...he's asking to be treated badly by the choices he is making whether it be from wife or other woman he's chosen to be involved with. When you play with fire you are going to get burnt....& until there is a desire to stop getting burnt change usually isn't their choice.

I don't know anything about this girl. Why do you worry what kind of girl she is if you don't really know her either.

Overall these people ( these guys in particular) you hanging out with all sound like bad news and they appear to have low morals. The one that wants sex and this one? Where do you know them from?

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Maybe i'm jaded. But,pretty much everyone i've ever met cheats and is superficial,self absorbed,etc. I'm pretty nonchalant. The only thing exhausting right now is other people's drama but if people want to cheat,that's their business.

I don't know. I work in a superficial industry but my friend in this thread I met before all that and we've known each other for over a decade. But,honestly,i don't really believe this is that crazy. Everyone I know seems to have their issues and I meet a lot of different types of people. The guy who liked me who I'm mad at,I met through work. He is a work contact.

I believe You can do better. If everyone you meet cheats and is self-absorbed and superficial, it can't be easy. Be careful with these people.

If it is all their business, then i am confused what's this thread about? I agree it's their business, I don't know them. I
only know about these people because you shared in two threads that you are concerned about this couple's private life and you were asking us questions about them? Good luck with all this

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Because we are very close. I don't know what kind of relationships you have with people but I can't help but care. His cheating,i don't judge too harshly. I cared a little bit and was shocked when I found out but was an ear and listened to and gave them advice,etc.