After 6 months of odd and scary behavior my husbands therapist called me and said she believes he is a sociopath.....please anyone here have any thoughts on this condition????

[Mygrandjourney]

Originally Posted by Plumprincess

After 6 months of odd and scary behavior my husbands therapist called me and said she believes he is a sociopath.....please anyone here have any thoughts on this condition????

Brace yourself. There are many posters with similar concerns in the "Partners of People with Personality Disorders" section of the forum.

[marmaduke]

From your description of him I would say the therapist is right. A narcissist/sociopath.
If they feel control slipping away they get angry.
They lack empathy. Best to keep the children away from him if possible.

When I asked for a divorce my ex started to act very strangely. Like standing in the dark in front of a full lenth mirror staring. For ages. Things got very creepy.
I didn't feel safe so l started sleeping with a knife under my pillow. 😨

He'd never treated me nicely, he ignored me when he did speak it was to threaten, complain or ridicule.

So glad when I got away. Just frustrated I wasted so much time with him.

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[Perry Gunite]

Hi plumprincess,
I am sorry to hear your news. First and foremost learn to protect yourself emotionally for the toxic behavior.
Here is a link to a book that is a must read based on what you stated.

https://www.psychopathfree.com/conte...-Book-Released

I suspect you will have some omg, ah-ha moments. If you don't have your own T, you may want to get one to help ensure you know that none of this is your fault. Journal your day and any episodes in a place that is safe. I suspect it has not been a smooth ride already.
I am unsure how long you have been together, but generally this comes out within a few years of a relationship, yet there were signs.
Then fact that he has a T who called you is good. Is the T able to work with him?

Again, you deserve happiness and safety.
Learn as much as you can, protect yourself physically and emotionally.

[yagr]

Originally Posted by Plumprincess

After 6 months of odd and scary behavior my husbands therapist called me and said she believes he is a sociopath.....please anyone here have any thoughts on this condition????

Sorry for the apparent distraction, but is this ethical? I bring it up because I'd immediately dismiss any therapist who called me up out of the blue to discuss her theories about my wife.

[lavendersage]

Originally Posted by yagr

Sorry for the apparent distraction, but is this ethical? I bring it up because I'd immediately dismiss any therapist who called me up out of the blue to discuss her theories about my wife.

I suppose if you want to hold to the absolute "letter of the law" the T crossed a boundary. But physical safety for all concerned, including helpless animals, are at stake here. I'd want a T to ring a phone off the wall in a situation like this. The T could very well be saving lives here.

Originally Posted by yagr

Sorry for the apparent distraction, but is this ethical? I bring it up because I'd immediately dismiss any therapist who called me up out of the blue to discuss her theories about my wife.

Yes...he signed a release to allow her to speak with me about his diagnoses and treatment recommendations. It was more than just the generic release form.

[Mygrandjourney]

I'm sorry you have just found this out about your husband and hope you have found somewhere safe to go. Please keep us posted on your well being. Your husband will have to decide how much effort he is willing to put into treatment and making important changes.

[jbuttz]

Originally Posted by marmaduke

From your description of him I would say the therapist is right. A narcissist/sociopath.
If they feel control slipping away they get angry.
They lack empathy. Best to keep the children away from him if possible.

When I asked for a divorce my ex started to act very strangely. Like standing in the dark in front of a full lenth mirror staring. For ages. Things got very creepy.
I didn't feel safe so l started sleeping with a knife under my pillow. 😨

He'd never treated me nicely, he ignored me when he did speak it was to threaten, complain or ridicule.

So glad when I got away. Just frustrated I wasted so much time with him.

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oh my gosh... I'm sorry to hear that. It sounds so wild

[JustJenny]

Plumprincess, what are you going to do now? Are you still considering going back to him?