[PieceofMe]

(This isn't a bash facebook thread)

I just found out that I was defriended by a friend on facebook. I met her in college. I know that I'm not very close to her but I try to make new friends. I just have a hard time getting close to them because for some reason we never become "close friends" or "best friends" (I hate that last one.) I'm discouraged because I feel like I will never have close friendships. I just wonder why she did that. Do you think I should ask her why??? I just don't know what to do. My year hasn't gone too well and honestly, I don't want to have to say that I lost another friend. I have already given up on making friends. I would like to say that I at least have some friends still left in life. I hate my life.

should i delete her phone number?? I already texted her, just afraid that I won't' get an answer. I feel like I run everybody off. I'm losing hope in life.

I'm really sorry you are hurting.

Hmmm. This may not be an appealing option for you, but I wouldn't try following up with her again. See if she replies to your text or not. Many people are conflict avoiders, so she may never reply or if she does she may not be entirely truthful. Something else to consider - often times how someone else interacts with us is not about us but about them. It could have nothing really to do with you.

[PieceofMe]

All I said was Hi are you lol. I didn't want her to run away. I just hate the feeling of losing someone else again. She was a very positive person in my life. Oh well. I guess I just have to learn to make new friends. I hate doing that though. It's so hard.

Thanks for your reply

Those new friends? Could be much better than the old.

[PieceofMe]

I met her in college. So I guess she was new. I'm not very good at making friends, especially as an adult. i'm really shy. Maybe that's why my friendships never last. We never hang out or anything.

** I meant to say Hi how are you. I didn't realize i didn't add the how in the last comment lol.

[JustJenny]

I am sorry she did that to you. I think it's time for you to make new friends. In my own experience when you lose real life contact with your old friends they tend to carry on with their lives, making new friends and experiencing new things, making the gap between you two bigger driving you further apart. It's life. Don't take these things personally, it happens to everyone. Some people are just more sensitive to it.

You sounds like a very nice person, feel free to private message me if you want to talk to me - I will respond

P.S. regarding texts - I personally often miss calls and don't see texts early enough because I keep my phone lying around somewhere. People call me/text me very rarely, so I don't hold on to my phone. Maybe that girl is a little bit like that - you never know.

People weed on "friends" on FB sometimes for no personal reason at all. They just are narrowing down their list to just those they correspond with regularly and are close with. Things like that. I wouldn't take it terribly personally. Unless you had some sort of falling out, it's likely she was just shortening her list and you probably aren't the only person she deleted.

[~Christina]

I am one of the people that go and wade through my " Facebook friends" and promptly unfriend people . Why? Variety of reasons.. usually its a combo of my disinterest in there posting or they get pissed about what I post ( LOL My Facebook, I post what I want) or I just realize that somehow or another I wind up seeing a old classmate through a ole friend, we friend each otherr chit chat back and forth a couple times and like a few things and then it trails off.. It's the nature of the beast ( Facebook)

Maybe i'm a hardass... Life is short and I just really don't care if someone were to unfriend me or block etc ...

[Avril01]

My mom unfriended my and took me off as a daughter. Because I wouldn't give into her bs bullying. I say to your ex friend. Adios. Fair well . Goodbye.

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[PieceofMe]

She didn't respond to my text. I was just upset because I hate losing friends. Facebook is my only way to contact others (because they are too busy to hang out in person but not busy enough to post apparently ) But I deleted my fb because there really isn't any need for it anymore. I do have to make friends in real life. It's hard. I thought I did that in college, I guess not. I just have a hard time making friends and it's frustrating to see people delete me from facebook and I don't know why. I am always afraid I did something to annoy them. I would hate to do that and then see them in person. Awkward....

[PieceofMe]

Also, I have a hard time keeping them, because like I said, I for some reason don't have contact with them and that is what keeps relationships going. Facebook is so much easier than trying to get their attention in real life. I guess that's why I obsess over it. It's helpful but not helpful at the same time

[Avril01]

FB is easier than real life I think that's why I like it. Never thought of it that way before.

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[PieceofMe]

Originally Posted by Avril01

FB is easier than real life I think that's why I like it. Never thought of it that way before.

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it's true!! but devastating for those who are shy, introverted. maybe some, not all. for me it is.

[Avril01]

Wish I could give you a big hug!

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[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Onward

I'm really sorry you are hurting.

Hmmm. This may not be an appealing option for you, but I wouldn't try following up with her again. See if she replies to your text or not. Many people are conflict avoiders, so she may never reply or if she does she may not be entirely truthful. Something else to consider - often times how someone else interacts with us is not about us but about them. It could have nothing really to do with you.

[Avril01]

thinking of you

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