[dancinglady]

We keep talking about lonely feelings, being alone, not fitting in with other people.

For the relationship successful people what are your steps when wanting a friend. Please make it a step by step plan.

Thanks

[healingme4me]

I really wish that I could give a step by step. I have one friend spanning 4 decades, actually another whom I reconnected through their mom of the same length of time. Then there are the friends of over 2 decades and those within the past decade. With busy schedules comes the "no excuses, must commit" to a specific date and time get togethers. It's about making time in these cases. Sometimes it's a jotted note or update. A text. If it takes setting a time and place for coffee, then it's coffee. Right now the onus is on me to establish a dinner, in my home to invite my kids' cousins' family, however the mom and I are the true friends here. Never easy with busy schedules.
I desire reconnecting with one friend an hour away, but at the time(note : excuse making) was going through a real Rocky patch with my ex husband. I want it to happen kid free, as I'm sensitive to her personal situation/being child free.
I've another friend for ages where cards are what works. We've both been to the others weddings. I missed her 40th when I was out of state.

For me friendships develop over time, not forced.

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I think it is more natural to some, and more challenging to others. I don't think one-size-fits-all plan would work for everyone, but I do think being genuine is a basic element. Why do you have difficulties with social relationships? Shyness, social anxiety, ASD ... etc?

Hello dancing lady. I use the phone a lot and call my friends, i write letters. Then i go outside run errands and hopefully bump into my neighbors. I get out to the store, make small talk. I also do chat on line, facebook. I then connect asking people what they are doing and usually i get an invite or they come over to my house and drop in. I am in the loop, i know what is going on so i don't feel isolated. That is big in my book. Then you can go from there, people often make plans and invite you in them. I hope this helps, tc

[ColeM1100]

I am in the same boat, I haven't made a friend in years, she let's go after finding a boyfriend, and stopped contacting me. All I can say is try meetups in your area and go out and meet new peo

[ColeM1100]

New people, that's what I'm trying

[Ocean Swimmer]

Right now I'm with people I've known for decades.

So step one could be : get out your yearbook. Use online to locate who you used to be friends with and rehook.

Next. Your neighbors. Ask if they want to get some exercise and walk.

Join a support group. Look up NAMI in your area. Free.

People either really understand me or hate the way I act. Because I'm bipolar. I can really be outspoken. Plus there are a lot of people I just don't like.