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@OP: Nothing to lose. Good luck.

Perhaps totally off topic but picture might not be of themselves. That's what scammers do. They use pictures of people they stole of others sites like Facebook etc they don't post model pictures but pictures of regular trustworthy looking people. You really don't know until you meet ( scammers and playerA will never meet, they will strong you along)

Mac, you say you are 60 and never had a relationship. What has your life been like?

Lonely - you know I had a career and everything and I'm actually fairly well off. I retired at 57. That said I never really got going on the relationship area and I've only had one or two close friends - men friends. It's tragic because I've never had a woman friend I could take care of - I really am bitter about this but what can you do? I'm not religious so I don't really believe the fates are against me. All I can say is I hope nobody has to take this route because it's painful. I've been fighting social anxiety all my life and when I was younger it was so bad it kept me from really enjoying what a young man should enjoy. People probably think I'm weird because I've never been with anyone for any length of time - medication and strong will power have saved me. In my 20s, 30s and 40 I kept telling myself that everything was going to be okay and you will be happy - nope. I'm thankful that I'm good company for myself, i.e. I kept myself entertained through the long dark hours. Holidays and summertime were always the worst - just incredibly depressing. Enough of this - it's a broken record.

PS I got a warning for ya - I've already been scammed on Match.com - young women claiming to want old men but they want you to get in touch outside of the website - the world is really screwed up!

Why are you going for young women? We all told you that nothing good will come of that. Stick to women your age from now on.

I didn't say I was going for young women (although I wouldn't rule out the possibility) - they got a hold of me after I filled out my profile. They don't exist anyway it's a scam because they try to get you off the Match.com website so they can ask for money. Watch it - I'm already tainted by the process.

You got to be careful on there but don't let it turn you off from dating but please do not go for 20 year olds. They maybe contact you as you are not indicating age preferences. Do you set up appropriate age in your searches? No 20 year olds would go for 60 year old unless they are scammers

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I'm not really looking at anything under 35.

I think you'll achieve what you really want. I was trying to get more background from you, hoping I could say something that might help you. But, I don't think there are any magic words.

Gee what a waiting game - at least they could acknowledge that they received your comment.

Don't expect a response for every message you send. You need to send many messages before getting a response. It's a number game. Be patient and wise in choosing your match who's most likely to respond. Good luck

I got two responses from very attractive women. They're both in there forties and divorced. This has me a little intimidated because obviously they have relationship experience. One was very interested in my hobbies. Yikes!

Good news.

That sounds good, take things as slowly as you need to.

Yes, people nearer your age will usually have relationship experiences and all that goes with that. On the positive side this may mean they know a bit more about themselves and what they are looking for. Don't assume your lack of experience will necessarily put them off or be a negative thing.

That's good news. That's expected that women you'll meet had relationships before. Don't let it scare you

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Okay so I replied - so how long do I wait before I move on. Seems like of they were interested they would have sent something back. Not that I'm in that big of a hurry I just don't know what I'm doing.

First off: relax.

Dating sites aren't chat sites, some people don't even check theirs every day. They will either reply or not reply to you. Don't take it personally if they don't reply. You have zero attachment to them nor they to you, so it's easy to just not respond and not even think about how the other might feel about not getting a response.

Plus, people have lives. A slow reply could just mean that they have an active life - or not! Just as quick replies don't mean the other person has no life.

The more you connect with others, the more skills you will develop. Which is great!

Oh, when I received initial messages I was always more inclined to respond if the other person commented on something in my profile - it showed that if nothing else, they took the time to read it.

I don't know I'm sort of having another bout of unrequited love regret - I'm trying a little but I just feel so defeated. I think this last bout really sent me to the floor and I'm still trying to get up. I wish I could be more positive but that's the way it is - I can't think clearly anymore. I think I blew out what was left of my ambition.