Ditched with nowhere to go by a friend last night....

Change your playground (bars), Change your friends (drunks).

These people are not your friends!

This same, sad drama and trauma will continue to play out in your life as long as you choose drinking buddies to pal around with.

As much as I detest AA, I can't help but recommend it to you.

It looks as if you've almost reached that decision on your own, therefore, I'll second it for you!

Wishing you the best in hopping off this not so merry-go-round and finding healthier people and places to pal around.

Sincerely,
Pfrog!

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Sadly, now that I really think about things and what everyone has already told me, it wouldn't be a good idea to give him a second chance. A real friend who cared about me wouldn't say all those negative things about me and act like everything bad that's happened to me is solely my fault.

Not everything has been my fault, and I'm not to blame for all of the things that have went wrong in the past 100%. How dare he say that. I told him to not say anything to anyone about this, but who knows if he will or not? I hope that he has enough respect for me to not do that, but it doesn't seem as if he has much respect for me according to his last email. He didn't apologize to me for a single thing at all. And then he didn't even bother to call or text me to make sure if I made it home safely or not.

He was never like this to me before, so I don't get why he'd suddenly be this way and act like I'm the one with the problem and that he was just the innocent victim who's night I supposedly ruined? I wonder if maybe he is an alcoholic as he'd go to bars often in the past, and he'd drink at home and when he's out quite often. He knows a lot of people at these bars, and the bartenders, and he has even been to almost every bar in the city where he lives which happens to be one of the biggest cities in the state.

As for A.A, why do you detest it? Is it the people or something else? I went there a few times. Some of the people were a bit pushy, but most were nice. Maybe I'll go back there sometime soon.

Thanks for the hugs Fuzzybear-

I just don't care for the religious overtones nor those who embrace it to the point that they become AA Nazis about it ... Oh, and that part about being powerless really burns my butt because if I can't change my own behaviors for myself then nobody else nor any program can ... But that's just how Pfrog rolls, it's proven helpful for many that can't find any other way to do it for themselves.

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I hear you on that. I don't like it when religious people tell me that I need Jesus in my life or anything like that. You're right, no one can change my behaviour but me. I did drink a few times since I last posted on this thread, ugh. I'll have to try harder to stop. I can't deal with stress that well, so that's a problem. I'll have to find better ways of dealing with stress. I'm not drinking now, nor have I consistently drank for days in a row, so that's a start.