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#1
Jul 10, 2007, 11:03 AM
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What is a friend?
What is a good friend? What is a close friend? What is a best friend? xo Fuzzy  
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Jul 10, 2007, 01:59 PM
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This has always been an interesting question for me .... I have many "friends" but I never phone, nor does my phone ring! I don't go for coffee - I don't go for drinks.
I had a best friend years ago but she moved to another country and we no longer have contact. All my friends now are my husband's friends. I have always been pretty useless at making my own friends. IRL - except for my husband and son - I am very lonely. I don't know who is close or good but I know my husband is the only friend I have. (Naturally that statement above excludes the friends I have here, with whom, I could not do without!)
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Jul 10, 2007, 02:01 PM
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Thanks Sabrina!!!
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Jul 10, 2007, 02:04 PM
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Another thought provoking thread .... you're welcome!
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Jul 10, 2007, 07:54 PM
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This is a great question! And I'll bet it is different for everyone.
A friend - someone who you can have a laugh with, talk about the weather, basically chit chat with, but never real close. A Good Friend - someone you can have a laugh with and maybe even get silly with, without feeling uncomfortable. Someone who you can depend on for a quick ride to the market or bank when your car has broken down. You known each others kids, families and what a lot of their likes an dislikes are. A Close Friend - Someone you can trust with some of your secrets. They won't talk about you behind your back in negative ways...they won't spill your information to others you don't want to know. You can walk into their house and make a cup of coffee because you know where everything is kept and you don't have to wait to be asked (and vice versa too!) Their kids call you mom (or dad) and your kids call them mom (or dad). You can vacation together for a week and not grow tired of one another. A Best Friend - Someone you can call and cry and cry and cry to when something goes wrong. Someone who can share the good times and bad and know exactly how you feel. They know you inside and out and what makes you tick. They don't judge you, but they will always tell you the truth even if it hurts a bit. You can both finish each other's thoughts and sentences. That's my take on your question about friendship  One point I would like to make and I hope you don't mind. All kinds of friends do not always stay in our lives. As much as we may want them to, things change. People grow at different rates, their interests change, their perceptions of themselves as well as us change. While I may be sad or angry when I loose a friend for whatever reason, down the road I am grateful for what they brought to my life when they were here with me. Good or bad, it's all a learning experience! xoxoxo Jean |
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Jul 10, 2007, 10:00 PM
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I think you so eliquetely put into words what I could not...Sabau
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Jul 11, 2007, 11:55 AM
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I like most of Sabau's answers and agree.
The only one I'm a bit hesitant to agree with is "best friend." It forces me to raise one friend above the others in importance, and I have so few friends, each is precious.
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Jul 11, 2007, 01:23 PM
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Wants2, it happens on it's own, to have a best friend. You don't mentally or emotionally call one of your friends your "best friend." It just happens over a peroid of time.
I've never been one to have a group of friends, just one or two. The rest are acquaintances. I have a friend now that at one time I called my best friend because she was there for me in some really hard times. Now that I don't "need" her, we've grown apart. It's kinda sad, but it happens in all relationships. There's a woman in my life that depends on me for a lot of things, she hugs me and kisses me when she leaves my home, but I don't feel that close to her. My independence is such that someone depending on me as much as she does annoys me. Yet, I do have warm feelings for her. If I was to think of a best friend, someone that laughs and cries with me and I could tell her my innermost secrets, if I had any, it would be a woman I've known for about 30 yrs but rarely see or speak with. There is an undeniable bond between us that is stronger than time or things that happen in our lives. Then there are the friends I have here. They're a totally different breed/kind of friends. If I was to put my love for my 3D friends on one scale and my love for my friends here on PC, the scale would come out even, yet I haven't met anyone here from PC.
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Jul 12, 2007, 08:53 AM
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Thanks for all your replies!!!
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