Women,how many messages do you get on online dating

The point wasn't that you need to pay to get dates but that other sites provide better pool of men who are and can pay for matchmaking service. It does not make one desperate but rather more selective. Anything that is free isn't the same quality as when one pays for it. Guys that can't afford to pay or aren't willing to, are usually not looking for anything serious.

How is being on a hookup site is less desperate than paying for the one that has more men of substance?

No I am pretty sure it's not what Valentina meant

Also you've been asking for advice how to get more dates but when people give you legitimate advice you but only dismiss it but get angry and not very polite about it. Why are you asking if answers are making you mad? We are suggesting how to improve your situation and telling you what we did. I don't know why you get so defensive

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I don't pick average weight or athletic on mine. I check the box that says curvy or a few extra pounds. The minute we meet they are going to see that I am not thin.

I use pictures that show that. I show that I have tattoos. I show that I am 50 and all that means.

I didn't message women with long and very detailed profiles, too. Simply because I have to read it all, and then most likely won't get a reply (waste of time). All I needed to know: some clear photos, body type, height, education, having kids, and to a lesser extent religion. Other things and personality traits can be talked about later.

I put a little on there because there are some people looking for certain mutual interests.

Yes, sure. Enough but diverse details to converse and relate. But I saw profiles that needed at least 20 minutes to read. Also, some focus too much on one topic. Like there was this girl who kept talking about Jesus Christ, and how He saved her and I don't know what. Now even though I still consider myself Christian partly, this is boring, at least for me.

If you want a real quality guy you have to go where they go. There are many sites where it's free to post your profile but you have to pay to communicate with others. I would not want to communicate with a guy who was too cheap (poor?) to pay for the service. Also, any man who sends you a message with just one word probably isn't worth your time.

To answer your question about getting more messages, you might want to research how to write a profile that will get the attention of your target audience. Some guys go through and just message any and all women who's photos appeal to them, just on the chance of one responding. Getting tons of messages isn't the objective, I don't think. You want to meet one special guy, so be patient. Quality is more important than quantity. Good luck out there!

Add: A lot of people check sites once a week or less often. Hang in there!

I put a little on there because there are some people looking for certain mutual interests.