Two friends backstab

I know two people who backstab each other a lot. They claim to be friends but I know their not. No true friend would backstab constantly. I am still friends with one of them but the other one I don't consider a friend anymore for that exact reason. All they do is complain non-stop about each other and backstab consistantly. They tell me everything which is awkward.

The main thing they talk about is how negative the other person is. Which is actually true but they are being hypocrites since they are both very negative and both complain a lot, yet they get mad when the other person complains.

I am still friends with the girl but not as close to her. The guy is way worse and even though he still talks to me, I do not consider him a friend anymore. They have also talked about me. Mostly the guy. They got mad at me for visiting them and called me clingy even after they said beforehand that they wanted me to visit. I don't visit very often. Becoming more rare now

I am just so sick of it and wish they would stop. Should I just tell them both to stop? They both know that each other talks about the other person behind their back so I do not get why they are still friends other than the possibility that they are friends out of boredom since they have no one else to be around.

Just wondered if I should just tell them to stop or ignore them. I feel like they are probably not good friends to me either since I know they have talked about me. Just want to know what I should do. I know what they are doing is wrong, and they are definitely not true friends. Just wish they would stop and maybe even seek out new friends. Should I cut them out as well?

It is almost like they cannot accept responsibility and won't just talk about it. I find it very alarming that they do that stuff, yet still choose to hang out with each other. I already emotionally detached myself from the guy and very close to with the girl. Basically everything they backstab each other, they do the same themselves. I feel like it is a personality thing. Like their personalities are so similar in a negative way that they are not compatible.

Well, it sounds like you already know that they're not good friends. I'd drop both of them as it sounds like they're both toxic. They probably talk about you behind your back too. I wouldn't trust them anymore if I were you.

You can talk to them both and tell them if they don't stop their immature and dramatic behaviour, then you can't be their friend anymore. Tell them that you're sick of being caught in the middle. Do it nicely though. Why are you even friends with them? You need to make better friends who are more positive, mature, and respectful of each other and yourself. Forget about them and move on with your life. You'll be happier in the long run.

Just google toxic friends and see if they fit the description. They probably do.

Just go no contact. If they contact you, be polite but don't initiate any communication. Hopefully, they'll leave you alone. No one needs friends like this.

Makes sense, yeah I am pulling away from them. Their behavior clearly shows they are toxic. Not only do they dislike each other obviously, they most likely do not like me either. Especially since I am not as afraid to be honest as I used to be. I am getting better at being assertive, which can piss off toxic friends.

Sssss... "Toxic friends" ......

They are not "friends" don't go go around talking shyt and doing nothing but whine and complain... I would just take a huge step back and if they contact you. " I'm sorry I have plans ". They will find someone new to have a drama fest with

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Good for you! Toxic friends & toxic people in general don't like assertive people who will call them out on their bad behaviour! Now you know what to look out for.

Those two obviously are getting something out of the backstabbing behavior. Otherwise they wouldn't keep it up. In fact, you might be the source of their entertainment...I don't mean that disrespectfully to you. Disengage from them, you deserve better.

Yeah honestly, I agree. I do think I may be a source of entertainment. I hang out with them less now.

I no longer talk to them. One of them may message me on a special occasion like a birthday or holiday but that's it. It is kept very casual. The other I don't talk to at all. I never talk to them first though. Don't even have any desire to be friends with them anymore.

I agrre with the others that they don't sound like very good friends. So good on you for cutting off contacts with them! We don't need more toxic people in our lives. Not to mentions the could backstab you as well in the future. I hope you'll be able to find better better friendships. Feel free to PM me anytime. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you

I don’t think it would do any good to talk with them about it. You’ll end up being the bad guy. I’m horrible with maintaining friendships but in this case I must say I think you would be better off moving on.

Yes I totally agree. I don’t care to talk to them anymore. In fact, another friend who I reconnected, who I’ve mentioned in the past, that treats me better now actually is a much better friend now than the two friends who back stab ever were. That’s saying something.

Oh I totally agree. I could careless about talking to them again. Not sure why one of them even still messages me on special occasions. Makes me think it is out of politeness. But other than that we don’t talk and I am happier for it.

Start distancing yourself from them and then explain the unless they change their attitude and stop this behavior. They can no longer hang out with you. It sound very toxic I had a friend who did this to me.

Oh yeah I already did. I am glad I am done with them. They are not worth it. If they couldn’t be bothered by me visiting them and even other people and calling me clingy and baskstsbbing me after they said they were okay with me visiting, while backstabbing each other, than they were not real friends.

Good for you. I came to the conclusion that when someone does something ill to another person, it shows what she is capable of and her true character. I learned to tell myself:

"If she could do it to one human being, she could do it to me also if things were to turn sour between us. Don't think that I am an exception."

You make a great point that toxic people is irritated when you start to become more assertive. Well, their reaction reveals their true colors all the more!

Sending you a high-five and a hug.

Yep I agree and thank you!