[galeckifan]

This girl at my church said hi in a snappy rude tone when I said hi to her and then when she was leaving and I said bye she completely ignored me. Why is that? I am so upset I don't know what did to make her not want to even say bye.

[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by galeckifan

This girl at my church said hi in a snappy rude tone when I said hi to her and then when she was leaving and I said bye she completely ignored me. Why is that? I am so upset I don't know what did to make her not want to even say bye.

I think you need to take a step back and look at all of these people you call "friends" from all your posts that you've put up it seems you use the term very loosely calling any person you have had interactions with at one point a "friend" where it seems that some of them at the very least have chosen not to be more than a fellow church member with you.

Is this someone you hang out with, talk about life with, go to parties with or anything? have you or do you now do these things with her? if you have in the past you should analyze at what point things went awry. If never then maybe you are trying too hard to be buddies with someone that isn't interested and that is the reason for the response you got?

[galeckifan]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

I think you need to take a step back and look at all of these people you call "friends" from all your posts that you've put up it seems you use the term very loosely calling any person you have had interactions with at one point a "friend" where it seems that some of them at the very least have chosen not to be more than a fellow church member with you.

Is this someone you hang out with, talk about life with, go to parties with or anything? have you or do you now do these things with her? if you have in the past you should analyze at what point things went awry. If never then maybe you are trying too hard to be buddies with someone that isn't interested and that is the reason for the response you got?

I have in the past, and I have no idea at what point things went awry?

[Bill3]

If she is willing to speak at all, you could ask her kindly what she thinks went wrong.

For goodness sakes - get out of there and find a new church. Start fresh.

Ask yourself some questions:

What do you like about yourself.
What sort of things do you like in others.
What sort of thing do you dislike about others. Does any of this ring true with yourself.
What then is what you consider a friend; what would be their attrbutes. Does any of this ring true with yourself.

Another way to look at this is to 1) list off the worst things you dislike in other people 2) the best things 3) the most likely things to find in other people. Now consider where you fall into that.

Originally Posted by galeckifan

I have in the past, and I have no idea at what point things went awry?

Well, I think it's best to just let sleeping dogs lie, e.g., it's probably healthiest for both you and her to not socially engage (unless it's on her own initiative).

It sounds like it's an established clique, that's all. It would be nice if they included you, but they haven't. I'd try and move on from the entire thing. Who knows, maybe they aren't that fun to spend time with, anyway.

If you find that it continues to bother you, I recommend you start fresh at a different church that has a lot of members your age. Have your transportation pre-arranged - it complicated things at your current church. It will be easier to make new friends if you don't rely on them for a ride.

[Crazy Hitch]

Seems like you're just torturing yourself trying to latch on these people and continue to go to the same place. This has been happening for some time now. Perhaps you need to find a new church / people to be around as it seems as if you've encountered some kind of negative interaction (what you perceive to be negative) from quite a few there.

[ComfortablyNumb5]

Gahhhh!! Every one of your posts are the same! Leave these people be. They aren't interested in being your friend. Not even enough to say "bye" so they're not good friends. I wish you'd take everyone's advice and move along.

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[~Christina]

Typically the OP doesn't return to her threads. I am assuming that she wants to vent rather than work on her behavior in regards to pushing herself onto other people..

Maybe this time will be different?

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[ComfortablyNumb5]

If you want to vent, get a journal. If you want advice on how to change then reply to people here and listen to what they say. 'Nuff said!

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[lovethesun]

Well next time this "friend" is rude to you at church, tell her "God is watching you".