[kama]

I am in the relationship I have always dreamed of and I am ruining it. I have been going through some issues and instead of looking to my boyfriend for advice and help I am pushing him away. The issues that I am dealing with are a lot of anxiety and some issues with eating. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we have a great relationship. I am just under so much self imposed pressure that I just want to be alone. I am doing what I have always done, running and hiding when things get hard. I have this huge desire to be alone. That way when I am having a panic attack or just a plain old bad day I don't feel like I am ruining his day or keeping him from having a good time. If anyone has some advice I would really love it! Thanks!

If your boyfriends was dealing with some personal issues, think about how important it would be for you to be able to be there for him!!!!
You may want to talk to him and tell him how you like to deal with your issues and how much it means to you that he can understand your need to be alone. Giving you the space to deal with personal issues is another way of loving you, specially if he's keeping you close in his heart, just like you keep him.

gab

[EJp]

Have you discussed this with him? communication is key. sometimes I think we have to act with our mind and not on emotion. You might feel like you are distancing which might keep you from him. But go with your mind and do what it tells you is best.

[alm15]

Hi Kama! I can totally relate. It's a hard place to be. Have you thought about couple's counseling? It's very difficult when going through a rough time to sort out how to deal with a relationship. Educating him about what you're dealing with might help too. I'm sorry you're in this uncomfortable place right now. You'll get through it! Take great care of yourself! Annie

[Beautiful_Pain]

Welcome, Kama...glad you found your way here

Good posts already...nothing to add but a Hi and welcome



<font color=purple>Pain can indeed be a beautiful thing</font color=purple>

[kama]

Thanks so much for all the support and kind words. It's great to be able to be able come here and blab about all my confusion and know that I'm not alone. So, thank you! Take care everyone!