Do girls consider outgoing guys more attractive than introverted guys?

This is a really astute observation. I agree that your problem likely has to do with not listening to other people, not allowing a back and forth dialog, and insisting that your flawed thinking is "right" all the time. People who constantly need to be right, and refuse to listen to others' arguments or opinions, are incredibly frustrating and annoying to be around.

You also have pre-determined ideas about women. You think all women are the same and want the same things. Women seem to be inanimate, interchangeable objects to you. You refuse to listen when we tell you "no, women are not like that; I am not like that." You still cling to your distorted beliefs. When you do this in real life, it offends people and turns them off. You don't listen and you don't learn and you don't recognize people's individuality. Any woman considering dating you would want to be understood, heard, and appreciated as a unique individual. You are incapable of giving that to her until you let go of your misguided beliefs about "women are always X."

So you aren't quick witted, as you say. it's funny you say that you're slow thinking yet the fact that you spit out what comes to mind doesn't seem slow to me, it seems more that you just say what's on your mind in the spur of the moment and that's not slow thinking that's impulse control. So learn to tame your impulse control. People are going to be more open to someone that takes their time in answering or replying rather than someone that just impulsively feels the need to blurt things out at times.

Nope, not my issue at all, you misinterpreted that. I tend to keep my mouth shut in social situations. But when I decide to go ahead and just say something, I end up saying stupid things because I am a slow thinker.

Quick question:

If you're taking the time to think before responding, how is it you still end up saying something stupid?


I'm not being facetious, I honestly don't understand.


One would think blurting something out without thinking leads to saying stupid things, not giving the words some thought beforehand...


Unless you mean you feel you seem stupid because you take long to respond, that I do understand.

I actually listen VERY closely to women, and that is why I believe what I believe. I do not hear women saying "nope I don't like clever, funny, charismatic guys I prefer a guy who is shy and quiet".

Also, I don't argue and rarely even express my opinions in real life. I am a shy, timid pushover. My brother, on the other hand, is very opinionated and often disrespects other people's views, hobbies and interests. Just the other day during that social gathering he was ripping on people for partaking in a certain event, which several of the girls there had actually done. Yet again, most girls, including the ones there, seem to find him much more appealing.

Hi.

Here's something to read, if you like...I think it applies. I don't think you are introverted. I think there are other things going on that you might be confusing with introversion.

Will the Real Introverts Please Stand Up? - Scientific American Blog Network