Am I over-reacting? But seriously what the hell

The men just almost always drive. It's just a man/woman custom. I have skin cancer on my right side only and I realize it is because I have been riding in the passenger side most all my life, lol. Yes, it's a macho thing for men to drive.

My ex has skin cancer. Too many days out in the sun.

And yes I know it's stereotypical to say the least - I've always been in relationships where the men drove.

I also always have been with men who always drive and they always had controlling side to them. Until now. Took me therapy to figure out my attraction to these matcho men. I am not saying your BF is controlling but i would watch out and wouldn't go in a car with him driving ever again

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Just be cautious

To me, a sensitive person is one who picks up on your feelings quickly and with ease, and who has kindly ways of easing your day or showing that they care.

What you are describing in this instance is not, to me, sensitive.

Instead, he strikes me as defensive. Anger is often a defense for some thought or emotion that the person does not want to admit to or experience. His expected anger over what you would say about his driving strikes me as his way of defending himself from actually facing, discussing, and addressing the driving issue that you would raise. It is his way of putting the blame on you and therefore avoiding his own issue.

What Bill said. Both times! <3

This is a safety issue, in addition to being just plain personally alarming. I mean, YEOW!

IDK what the WHAT it is w/males & driving -- any guy I was around much who was feeling insecure or rowdy always seemed to want to throw me in a car or (worse by far) on the back of a motorcycle and drive like Jehu. PANIC! Which maybe was the whole idea at the time -- dominance, etc.

Your BF truly sounds like a major road hazard -- A distracted Driver? Near-misses say a lot about someone who consistently has them; and imo in the near future there'll be one that does NOT miss.

Be safe. In order to have a manageable life, it's sometimes needful to take the reins (and the wheel) ourselves. You'll get it handled, I have faith. And you'd never put your kids in harms way knowingly.

xo,
Chyia, smh @ men + machines

My boyfriend ALWAYS drives, but he is a very careful driver. Never reckless. Good luck and be safe.

OMG Bill you stopped me dead in my tracks after I read that. Gees you're right. I didn't even think about it that way at all until you pointed it out. He DID snap "I'm sorry!" when I was going on about my kids. But not like he was sorry it came across as gees enough already.

Motorcycle! wow

Scary stuff

@The O.P, I agree with what Crypt and Bill said. Also, has your b.f always driven that way? Is it possible that he's showing off? Or that he might have some problem with his eye sight that he isn't telling you about, or some issue that he's not even aware of? Ask him to get his eyes checked. If he wears glasses or contacts, tell him to wear them when driving. If he continues to do this, then tell him that you'll do the driving next time!

No eye problems I'm aware of. Maybe it's some kind of attention span thing - albeit a rather drastic one.