[janelinzhen]

My husband is doing business at home. I'm staying at home taking online courses to change my career and injecting medications for having a baby. For about a year he constantly loses money in the market until lately we have barely any savings left. He is very upset about the loss but this morning things went to an extreme. He was cursing, hitting the desk, signing a lot. I had to hide in the bedroom in order not to be affected. Actually I wept a bit. I'm very caring about his feeling and I'm fragile as well. He didn't talk to me during lunch or dinner and kept thinking about business and immersing in the frustrated mood.

I went out for a long run and called my friend in the evening. I felt much better after doing these. But I just want to avoid him, escaping from this negative environment. I cannot stop thinking that my future baby will grow up in this environment...

Am I overreacting? My husband has no friend, only me. He is very picky, complaining a lot, suspicious, doesn't get along with my family members and friends. Nobody likes him. I love him and appreciate him as my life partner but to be honest, sometimes even myself don't like him. But he is a nice and gentle person to me and treats me with a lot of respect.

How would you deal with such a negative environment/person?

[NewCommer]

Well
It's important for you to feel safe and acknowledge the situation. How do you see yourself with your husband in the next 30 years?
It's dificult to deal with people like that (my dad for example), but not imposible.
So, have you told him how do you feel? Your husband is dealing with a lot of stress and might not find a way to deal with it until it explodes.
It might be hard for him, but have he considered to look for another job?
I hope my words could help you.

[healingme4me]

Might it be better for him to ride out the market? As daily tracking won't give the money time to settle into long term growth. Granted the other week was a bit volatile, but things stabilized.

How involved are you in being included in watching and choosing investments?

[divine1966]

I only invest in a 403b plan that I can't lose any money. I am not gaining much but there is no way I'd be constantly worried if market will go down. Do you have any of your own money in case he loses everything? This is too stressful for my test


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