[Yismymindblank12]

Like I really should of seen this coming, but how it happened is much more reckless than intended. I really do seek a true relationship despite my issues. Yes I know what I need to fix and did the best I can, and did a good job, but she disagrees, because she said I never gave her enough attention or barely spent anything on her. Even though it all amounts to the gas money to take her wherever and getting her and taking her out to eat getting to a hospital when she was sick.

I tried I really tried and it wasn't enough. Yeah I act like an immature child on the outside, but I opened up, but she couldn't see between who I was and what I wanted out of the relationship. This whole thing got really ugly. I'm bummed out, I just got a job and soon two to go visit her and help her out, but nope that is not happening too inconvenient.

So, I feel regret in some parts, but now I should never let any woman influence my own personal choices having me in a place of stress to decide on things related to her. I can't take that. I'm sorry I have a really bad wandering eye, but I really never texted anyone I gave you numbers of people who you were sketched out by and wasn't any way felt pressured to give up my own secrets to you, but you still wanted more.

I hate it, like it's not fair. I shouldn't have to go out of my way for anyone when they can't trust me. I can't help make a precedent to go slowly, because so many females want to rush rush rush. Yes I'm to blame having sex early on, and I'm sorry that's how I do it, and yes I have done this for specific people I'm attracted to, because I was emotionally connected to them and so I sex helps me break the ice after awhile or early on it depends. Yes it stems from my sexual abuse, maybe I want someone on my level of maturity and emotional security to feel that someone strong enough for both of us to push through the struggles. Yes I did back out, those times, because of the move and I did loved her later on, but I'm not holding you back. If I did I wouldn't loved you to take care of you.

So it's really frustrating, I'm here no friends, just working no relationships.

I really want to seek more relationships again. I cannot afford to see therapists or anyone atm. Like food was my #1 concern, but I don't need that anymore. I was hoping while I'm out being free the right person come along to join me.

Yeah my ex wasn't a bad gf, definitely a lot better than my past relationships, but this is the first time I had a real relationship.

Should I date more for experience? or should I make more friends? Like friends only get me so far, like I can't stand making friends and not really seeing them all that much and I only get that when I'm "fwb" or having a true friend in town or a gf. It's hard...

First off, I think that your ex making it a priority that you buy things for her is selfish. Definitely not something to be critical to the relationship. Dodged a bullet, good job.

I have to say all women aren't in a rush. What rush do you mean? Some women in approaching 30 want to marry and have children. If that's the issue you're talking about and don't like that - don't date women that age that have never married and are childless.

For example, I'm divorced with one child. I'm in a very serious relationship. That said, I absolutely will never remarry or have more kids. My boyfriend feels the same. Win-win.

Sex needs to be consenual. It doesn't matter how soon it happens if it's consensual. However, if you only want a sexual fling - it's respectful to let her know beforehand. Leading a woman on to get sex isn't something that's a good idea. At least for her, it's hurtful, to say the least.

You say you have a really bad wandering eye? You can control that. Don't obviously check other women out when you're with a woman. And women don't like to be leered at. It's creepy to us. You can work on this. Your eye doesn't have a mind of its own!

Is that the rush you mean? Or a rush for an exclusive commitment? I may not ha e anything to add there. I like to see how things play out naturally. If a guy and I didn't want the same thing, I'd move on. There are a lot of women like that. I think you may be stereotyping us a bit. =]

Dare, make new friends. Enter a relationship when you are ready and find someone special. It doesn't mean it's forever. There's no rule book. Have fun! Get skills through therapy if you need help in this area and you can also process past trauma - you deserve that. Try to find a T that works on a sliding scale. You may be able to afford it.

[Yismymindblank12]

Thank you. Yes I mean she has one child, she is 19 soon to be 20 she wanted to be married around 22 for her at the latest, but that didn't bother me nearly as much as forcing me to move back up to Ohio from Texas to help her with when I simply was unable to as of now because her having me spent in her before moving I had like too dollars left. I now have a job and some means to make money to get a plane ticket and going back to visit until she moved down, but that wasn't good enough and so I'm just here getting my hopes up.

Commitment didn't bother me as much as I got further along and really grew attached to get and no matter how much i proven that to her. She in the end didn't trust me, just because she was insecure then it down wars spiralled into her own mindset of the worst possible situation when I've shown her it's fine. What frustrated me she belu ever I stopped trying when I did not cuddle her every night because I wasn't into her or something idk, but in actuality I've told her many times honestly laying down in bed or anywhere when we do relax after being out doing stuff as a couple with dates it hurts my arms, I lose feeling in my arms after awhile and I have a real medical problem of neurological issues she's seen alot the only person ik other than a few people who know how bad it can immobilize me.
I can't believe when I took her to the hospital when her back went she's crying and hurting alot that she believed I didnt love nor appreciate her around nearing our second month when I was consistent with her.
It frustrated me to no end how no matter what I did she never trusted me.
The biggest thing that distances me from her was feeling I can't even communicate because she believed eveeyone will leave her.

I had no issue with her son or her family. I had no issue what's she been through or who she was. It makes me sad, how I tried and did the best I could and wasn't enough.

I really never felt si happy what I did as I was, being comfortable with someone before this divide of her personal trust issues split us up.

She had a very specific type of mindset she desires in a guy who will love her and take care of her which I could and was able to before having to move, but she needed a guy who like dreams about her and his only fixation is her all day everyday.

She sounds very high-maintenance. Your last paragraph - those are unrealistic, selfish demands.

I don't like to snuggle all the time either. I like affection but, yeah, you need space after a bit. At least to keep blood circulating in your arms lol

[Yismymindblank12]

Originally Posted by rainyday107

She sounds very high-maintenance. Your last paragraph - those are unrealistic, selfish demands.

I don't like to snuggle all the time either. I like affection but, yeah, you need space after a bit. At least to keep blood circulating in your arms lol

Like I couldn't keep up with that, I was eventually in one ear out the other for sometimes when she's on me for the silliest things that you don't need to worry about.
That was the beginning of it, like if I never told her I love you a billion and 1 plus she be upset. Like it's all too much....
Other than that it would of been fine, I wanted it to work out and yeah deep down later on I lost faith in it, but never acted out or cheated on her in any form. I still stayed faithful, but I really wanted it to work out.

I really wanted to find someone whose so amazing, it couldn't had worked out with anyone else, but them.

She took me getting mad at her ******** and yeah I handled it poorly the first time, but regardless I easily made it up to her and then some with no hesitation.

It frustrated me when I called her out she get all pouty and be all immature about it and making it a competition trying to control the whole relationship.

[Curlymam]

She sounds an absolute NIGHTMARE!! To sit with your partner and say crap like she did is evidence of her inflated ego and belief that she deserves a rich handsome chap (rich enough not to work so he has time to dream about her all day) while funding her fantasy lifestyle ..

Hopefully your just over analysing mistakes she's accused you of making like I'm at that stage now it's just going through the motions of break up. Now I left my whole life a month ago moving hundreds of miles to get away from a narcissist control freak who made our life absolutely hell things you've mentioned ~ getting mad (not one single person can ever say they've never been angry!) being immature is her perception if you saw how silly I am with my kids at time you'd think I was insane never mind immature.. Points like that are just criticisms that serve only to aid her feelings of grandiose over you and you will see soon how better you feel being away from her!

Try joining (I'm Welsh so things might not work the same your side of the world ,) but things like trying new hobby, taking up a free evening class or online one, joining a pub pool league / darts team make your social circle wider.. Give it time your confidence will grow and you'll feel at ease with everything. I am coming out of the rose tinted view which suggests I was a insane liar and I'm in fact the abuser he's the victims and I've messed it all up its a disaster but pining for what I had just encouraged that line of thought and I recognise that in your tone x

[divine1966]

She is 19 and already has a child who knows who with. Now she is pregnant again with your baby. It's a nightmare. Please seriously stop having unprotected sex

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