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Jul 18, 2016, 01:16 AM
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Hello,
I kissed someone 3 months ago and we were about to have sex, that moment she said she is not ready (I think she was ready and wanted some strong and intense response from me) but it never happened. Later whenever I tried to hug her she rejected, I come to the point that she don't want me, I suggested her live your life and I won't bother you. Now a days she don't talk to me much, only the general stuff. She always yell in gentle mood to others (when I am doing nothing and listening) I have to do this n that, she have to wash dishes, cooking, work in the kitchen, she have to take care of kids and husband, telling other she is busy always (if no one is asking you anything, why really it matters you are busy or not) and bla bla bla...... I also do routine work but I don't think it worth mentioning to anyone unless something really happened. I am confused what she want from me ? after all that am I important to her ? why the fake laughs, why looking at me when I am not looking at her ? if that much her life mattered to her why am I (still feel) included. I don't have any bad intentions towards her, she is still a good friend to me, just want to know what she want and how could I help her. |
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Jul 18, 2016, 05:13 AM
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She doesn't sound ready to go to the next level with you in the relationship. Hugging and laughing with you are two very different things to having sex. If she's not ready, she's not ready and you should respect that (which I believe you seem to have). If you're keen to make this work, have an honest conversation with her about where she sees your relationship heading.
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Jul 18, 2016, 05:44 AM
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You said she has husband and kids?
That right there would be good enough reason to not look for something more. If she ditches them for you, eventually she'll most likely ditch you for someone else too. Don't become a notch on her belt of confusion and games ... Just a little something to think about. Sincerely, Pfrog! 
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Jul 18, 2016, 08:05 AM
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Yes, the family thing jumped out at me too. My recommendation is be glad nothing happened and walk the other way
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| TooManyIssuesMolly, Trippin2.0
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Jul 18, 2016, 12:07 PM
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I am not seeking sex as I said above, it worthless.
The things I am confused about, she don't want to break relations with me she clearly said that. I wanted to shift to a new place but she didn't allow me, I am not sure what she wants and she don't want to talk about this. That's why I came here to get help to know what she wants, so ill guide what's best for us. I won't make her ditch anyone, that's why I want to know her. Thank you! |
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Jul 18, 2016, 12:47 PM
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She is in a relationship and unavailable (and should be) for any emotional attachment. It's not just sex that crosses the line.
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| lovethesun
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Jul 18, 2016, 03:28 PM
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I still say to proceed with caution ... The husband may not appreciate y'all having any kind of "friendship" at all and things could turn nasty really fast for the both of you if he found out ... Regardless of whether sex is involved or not! ... My best friend growing up is a guy and we are like a brother and sister except we're not, and his wife let us know right damn quick that our friendship would no longer be tolerated ... Her insecurities, I know, but out of respect for him and his wife, and even though it was painful to lose that friendship, I politely stepped away so there wouldn't be any suspicion, hard feelings or discomfort between him and his wife ... I stick by what I said earlier and hope you make the correct decision as it applies to you, her and her husband.
Sincerely, Pfrog!
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Jul 18, 2016, 07:32 PM
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I don't recommend you pursue married women. It doesn't matter why she does this or that. I suggest you stir away and look for single ladies
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Jul 18, 2016, 10:36 PM
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Leave her alone. You do not have to answer if she calls or whatever... You can control if you have anything to do with her or not.
Let go and find someone single.
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Jul 19, 2016, 05:47 AM
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We are just best friends, her husband knows that we are just friends, what happened between us wasn't my intention.
Should I loose a best friend and walk away without telling her ? |
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Jul 19, 2016, 03:53 PM
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Well, the husband doesn't know that "just friends" is becoming something else entirely!
Yes, you need to take the high road and stand down ... I think that you are both adults and she'll figure it out on her own, or you could simply say you are no longer comfortable with the direction in which things are headed and don't feel it's right to continue the friendship out of respect for her, her husband and their marriage. I think all of us have made it pretty clear here what needs to be done ... Whether you follow that advice or not is up to you, but nothing good will come out of this if you continue to stay in it. Sincerely, Pfrog!
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Jul 19, 2016, 04:41 PM
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Jul 19, 2016, 04:48 PM
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I got your point, I am thinking I should start a new life with someone else.
I am getting involved in her which is not right, I am ganna end it because that's what I am feeling right. Thanks for Helping me out! |
| Anonymous37904
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Jul 19, 2016, 06:46 PM
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Jul 19, 2016, 07:42 PM
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Yes you should. |
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Jul 19, 2016, 09:33 PM
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She's the one you should be talking to about this, in my opinon. We all move at different paces. Sounds like, as mentioned, she's just not ready for that, as she said.
When it comes to women, I don't push, because I feel that's not respectful. Also, when a woman says she's not ready, it probably means she's not ready. I don't care if a woman is dry humping my leg, if she says no or stop, I'm gonna back off, because something is very clearly not right. To reiterate, we move at different paces. She may also just not feel comfortable with you specifically. I don't mean to sound so accusative... it's just that there may be something you've said or done to have warranted her reaction, which is why I would suggest you talk to her about it. Ask her, something like, "Have I said or done something wrong?" Never push a woman about these things. You might've just unknowingly stepped on a landmine, figuratively speaking. Communication is key. If you're looking for a relationship with this woman, what better way to start than with solid communication? I'm not the most experienced bloke ever, thanks in part to my MH and insecurities thereof, so feel free to ignore me. I do however have experience with women who need a gentler, more patient approach. This has been easier because I myself need a similar approach, as I have intimacy issues thanks to my anxiety/OCD, so I don't tend to rush into things like that. ...wait ... what... she's got a husband? Dear Lord man, stay away. She's a married woman; out of bounds; prohibited; not allowed; not applicable; forbidden.
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Jul 19, 2016, 10:23 PM
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^^ great post...
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Jul 20, 2016, 10:33 AM
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I am feeling so good after finishing everything with her, before I was feeling the continues unwanted pressure, now more like I am released from a huge burden.
Thanks for helping guys! Blessings to us all! 
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Jul 20, 2016, 03:26 PM
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Jul 20, 2016, 03:59 PM
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I know it probably wasn't easy, but it's definitely the right one! You keep making these kinds of decisions and good things will come your way! Sincerely, Pfrog!
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Jul 21, 2016, 09:44 AM
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Thanks for understanding my situation, you helped a lot! Let me Hug you lol |
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Jul 21, 2016, 10:40 AM
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You need to ask yourself why you're open to a relationship with someone who is not available to you.
She is married and will not be available to love anyone else unless she has some kind of special arrangement in her marriage, OR she is no longer married. Until then, you would be getting the short end of the stick. She is someone who could be cheating on her husband and she will likely exhibit the same behavior with you. I'm sorry that you're having a hard time with all this. Best of luck to you. Keep coming back to the forum! |
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Jul 28, 2016, 02:00 PM
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