Feeling insecure and scared.

Hello everyone!
Here I am again with the same kind of issue.

At this point I am feeling insecure and scared about my relationship.
I have a perfect relationship. We love each other, we have a lot of fun together, sex is great and we just decided to move together - everything is truly perfect. I have no doubts about my feelings and no doubts about her feelings either. However...

I am always scared that she will be bored of doing things only the two of us or that she will stop loving me at any moment. She didn't change since day 1, she really loves me, I know that but I can't help to have this kind of feelings.

I am also a bit jealous about her friends. For instance, in New Years Eve she will be with them, on a trip and she didn't invite me (it's the second year they are together) and when I'm calm I understand that they have this closed group (which I know quite well) and they do this kind of things together. I know they are her family, they are reaaaally close to each other but I can't help feeling like that and it sucks!

I don't tell her any of this, of course, because I understand it's my own issue and she doesn't have any "inappropriate" behavior, I don't have any reasons to feel this way...
Can you help me? Is this self-esteem related?

I remember last New Years Eve they were together and she posted on FB a message like "The sun is shinning, my friends are here and the coffee is hot. What can I ask for more? Happy New Year!", can you imagine how I felt?

Hey guys, please give me some tips. It sucks to feel this way...
Thank you a lot!
Have a nice day everyone.
Ana

I hate to state the obvious .... I do think you possibly need to have a conversation with her about this New Years arrangement. I'm not sure I see a valid reason you can't go. Sure, they're like family but you have a super strong relationship with her too.

I agree with Crazy Hitch, ask to join the party. If you receive "no" - or a flimsy excuse....ask about it further. Let us know how it goes. I think you should be included or at the very least understand why you aren't!

Umm excluding the person that is your mate from a closed friendship ring is questionable at best. You keep taking this on as if these are "just" your feelings as if they don't count, as if how this is affecting you is a non issue or something and that's pure bs. If you are a couple the fact is YOUR MATE should be your #1. New Years is a big deal and I'm sorry just as the others have said this is friggin weird azz behavior.

Everything you feel about this, excluded, as if her clique is too good for her to include you in, as if something else is going on, IMO are perfectly natural and on top of that JUSTIFIED feelings and need to be addressed. If anything You needn't be questioning your behavior or feelings in this but hers. What is it that she is doing with these friends that you wouldn't approve of or that she's hiding. I'm sorry to be blunt but really that's what seems to come to mind for me.

I believe a compromise is in order on holidays.

I see what you mean about imagining how you felt about that post. Completely oblivious to your feelings. What more could she want? It's new years...umm..to have the love of her life by her side as well as being with her closest friends? Maybe how you feel is your responsibility, but relationships are about being accountable to one another on top of it all.

"Interrogate your hidden assumptions."-Cornel West

She will feel your insecurity and jealous feelings, no matter how hard you try to hide them. And they will slowly drive her away from you.

So apparently she has friends and she, or they, don't want to include you, for whatever reasons. Telling her she cannot be with those friends, that will drive her away. She has to be able to have her own life, free from you. And if to her that means having friends you can never hang out with, then the moment you try to change her position on her, it will cost you.

Better hang out with friends of your own on New Years' eve and catch up by doing other stuff together later.

If she finds her friends more important than her BF, and you feel like that ought to be different, you two maybe aren't compatible. You cannot change her view on this by talking about it.

Hello everyone,
Thanks for your comments and support.
I'll let you know how it goes.
xoxo
Ana