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Sep 01, 2016, 07:02 PM
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My own sister threw me under the bus.
I have spent years confiding in her. She is an experimental psychologist, but she listened like a clinical psychologist. She just blamed me for being overly demanding of my husband, giving him an impossible requirement to fulfill. She said 'any other man would have left you', making him out to be a victim and a saint from my abuse. I can't believe she sees it that way. I was never impossibly demanding! He has been doing physical things/not doing, that was impossibly strange and frustrating. I can't believe she doesn't recognize that. Now she has me wondering if I am crazy and it is all my fault. This is the saddest case of frustration. I'm glad I told her my POV and defended myself, but I am shocked she took his side. Worst case scenario and I am an overly controlling, impossible, shrew- he sends me to level 10 of hysteria and depression. So call me the bad guy if you want, I know I have to get myself out of it. I care about myself enough to get myself out of this. I know what is in my heart and what words have come from my lips. Misunderstand and judge me all you want anybody. This isn't the first lifetime I have been falsely judged! 
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#2
Sep 01, 2016, 07:44 PM
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Your just venting Right?
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Sep 01, 2016, 08:27 PM
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Sep 02, 2016, 12:50 AM
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Me and my sister have many issues and it kills me. About my BP, she said "I just saw you, you're fine". Hah. I gave up with her.
I'm sorry your sister took his side but maybe this is a chance to step back and MAYBE see it from her point of view. And if you still disagree, then that's your right and your take on things may very well be correct. Are you and hubby ok otherwise? I'm not familiar with your background with him so forgive me. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Sep 02, 2016, 08:17 AM
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I have been driven crazy and suicidal. Blame myself? Blame my husband? Blame Canada? Lol. IDK
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Sep 02, 2016, 08:23 AM
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No, we are far from OK. We are living apart. I am moving my stuff out of our house one car load at a time and a total emotional wreck. We have an appointment with yet another new therapist tonight. I am triggered to hysteria by his inability to meet my needs to feel love from him. Very reasonable, logical, understandable, normal needs to feel physical love. It has been The Twilight Zone of me explaining basic needs like being touched with sincerity, being looked in the eye, him initiating touch and love making and him saying he understands and will do it. But then he won't. That's as simple as this is.
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Sep 02, 2016, 10:58 AM
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Oh I so relate!
My parents and my brother thought I was overly demanding of my ex in regards to his drinking. They were convinced that since he is not abusive I should be ok with his drinking. So not supportive. My SIL ( not his sister but my brothers wife) actually got mad at me when I told her I am not going back to my ex. She was literally pissed. It was tough times. The only people who were supportive were HIS kids who said they understand how hard is living with alcoholic and they can't blame me for living their father yet my family read me lectures  Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Sep 02, 2016, 11:31 AM
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Here your ex was so severely alcoholic that one friend had him dead, and your family thought it was a minor issue! Did you ever see Leaving Las Vegas?
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Sep 02, 2016, 12:23 PM
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Yeah I saw it. No mine was not like that as he is highly functional. They thought since he worked prestigious job and stayed out of trouble and was good to me, his drinking wasn't an issue (every single night at home starting 5pm). My mom even said " what do you care if he drinks, go do your own thing". Omg. Fo my own thing every freaking evening?
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#10
Sep 02, 2016, 02:11 PM
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The World is Full of Broken People! I have found that Everyone has Problems,
Most refuse to look at Themselves, they are the Hope less! You have the Guts too put it out There; Because You are Confused! Easy to understand! My World is also Confusing! Finally Realizing, I'm surrounded by Walking Wounded! You seem knowledgeable about the Medical community. I not a Doctor, So anything I'm saying is what I Think as a Non Profesional! By trying to Understand, What Terms The Profesional World uses to Describe Behavior, It Helps Me to understand what I'm dealing with! Remember not being a Doctor, I can't diagnos Anyone, Not Even Myself, but I can have an Opinion! |
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Sep 02, 2016, 02:22 PM
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