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My husband can be the most easy-going person sometimes, but that is just it: He is sometimes easy going and sometimes in a bad mood, and no one knows which way things are going to go from day to day. No one can tell what will set him off. Anyway, lately, I have felt like I need to talk to someone about how I feel, and I should be able to tell my husband, right?? WRONG!! I can't talk to him about anything. He won't even look at me or respond when I try to tell him anything about my emotions or if he asks me "what's wrong?" I know I should be able to talk to friends (i.e. on Facebook or by email, etc.), but he goes through my phone and email to see what I do on Facebook and who I email. I have caught on to this and have decided not to talk to my friends on Facebook (these are friends I have known since grade school (and I'm 45 yrs old now), so now I have no one to talk to. I have to act like everything is just great around him, or he will ask me "what's wrong?" and tell me I can tell him anything, but I really can't because he doesn't care/doesn't listen. He makes me feel like I'm not worth loving and that my feelings don't matter. I have an appointment with a therapist tomorrow, but who knows if I can make it to the appointment because my husband, if he has to work, might not even make it home in time for me to get to the appointment at the scheduled time. I feel like he is sabotaging my efforts to get the help that I need, and I feel so alone because of it.
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Hi,
How long have you and your husband been together? Has he always been this way or is this new behavior? |
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What would happen if you changed your passwords? Or let me rephrase, what's the worst that could happen if you changed your passwords? When there's an argument, what's his temper like?
It's not the greatest thing to have a sense of not trusting him to be there so that you can make an appointment. And not believing that you can confide in him about your emotions. Those are very important needs that are unmet at the moment. Was there a changing point between you or were things always like this? "Investigate your hidden assumptions."-Cornel West |
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You should not have to be subjected to having to isolate yourself from friends that you've known for years. We all need a good ear to listen and hear what we have to say and if you're not getting it from him you need someone to rely on.
I agree with what others have said. Put a password lock on your phone and set up your computer so that you have to put a password to log on. If you wish to remain in contact with old friends it's none of his business. |
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We've been together for 4 years now. Over time, he has gradually become this way. I think it's because he's bored of me or whatever.
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Sounds frustrating to have no communication. With my ex it seemed more a distrastibility issue. These days, it's hearing loss. Try asking him if he's listening and where he went to in that moment? It puts the responsibility on him to recognize that point where you are feeling unheard. Hope your therapy works out. "Investigate your hidden assumptions."-Cornel West |
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