[Lunnypone]

So, about 2 1/2 years ago when I was 21, I had my first maniac episode due to at the time undiagnosed (for years) case of schizoaffective disorder. To make a long story short when I was sliding down that scary slide of insanity I called up a friend that I have known since I was 11 and I accused him of trying to rape me. After that I was hospitalized and few weeks later and 28 days later, my family had told my friend that I was hospitalized.

My friend sent my family a list of the texts I sent him and told them that I should move on. However, he also said to tell him how I was doing but my family never did. Its been years now but my friend and I were very close and I still miss him terribly. I am going back to my birth state which is where my friend is next March. I was going to visit my brothers and at the same time see if my old friends still goes to the same church that we meet at. I'm torn between what to do if I see him or if I don't. I don't want to seem weird or creepy which is why I never visited.

I just want to see him and/or get some type of closer.

[Michelea]

Not to sound harsh, but he has already said that he wants you to move on. That needs to be respected. I don't think you will get what you are looking for by contacting him.

[Trippin2.0]

How about an email...


Giving him a heads up that you will be in the area, and that you don't want to catch him off guard and create weird vibes?


You can obviously add the sincere pleasantries (hope life has been treating you well) coupled with a heartfelt apology, and for good measure also assure him that your intention is not to overstep boundaries with your visit or email... A short sincere heads up.


But that's up to you.


Idk, its what I would do in your shoes anyway.

[Lunnypone]

You don't sound harsh to me Michela if anything that is what I was thinking at first, However,it didn't sit well for me even after years. I told my therapist that and she is right it wouldn't hurt to try to contact him.Unfortunately I don't have any contact info for him that is up to date. So no heads up... we used to go to the same church so I will see if he still goes there when I visit texas next march. I don't plan on a rejoice filled reconnecting or even seeing him cause he might not even still go there. I am going there for me it will make me feel better about everything. I haven't been there for years and I was to ashamed and scared to even watch church on tv. Its silly and nothing was my fault and my friend told my family not mad at me. I shouldn't be afraid of seeing someone at a mutual location out of the blue.