[lizardlady]

Has anyone read the blog about how to talk to woman wearing headphones of the viral response to the blog on line?

You can read the original blog here...

How to Talk to a Woman Who is Wearing Headphones | The Modern Man

I have to say the whole idea of some random guy coming up to me and trying to start a conversation is creepy, especially if I had headphones on. My first thought would be this guy was some sort of creep trying to put moves on me. Then I got thinking, maybe this is a generational thing. I'll confess, I'm an old fart. I don't often wear headphones when out and about, but if I do it's because I'm focused on what I'm listening to and want to be left alone.

So, ladies, what would you think if some guy who came up to you and tried to start talking to you while you were wearing headphones?

[divine1966]

I'd think he is having an emergency and needs to get my attention ASAP. Other than that it would be bothersome to me

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[lizardlady]

Originally Posted by divine1966

I'd think he is having an emergency and needs to get my attention ASAP. Other than that it would be bothersome to me

I hadn't thought of that possibility devine. Good point.

Honestly I would just ignore them. My headphones are on for a reason, I don't want to talk to people. I probably come across as quite rude a lot of the time, I just like to be left alone.

[TishaBuv]

Gosh, I don't find anything wrong with the article at all and give him kudos for trying to form relationships with women.

I guess the article is his solution to trying to break through a very closed off society. So many people must be walking around with headphones as if to say 'I want to be left alone!'

[venusss]

how to talk to woman wearing headphones

The answer is you DON'T. Unless it's quicky questions about directions or what not, or you are dying and the headphones wearing woman is the only person in radius. you don't. People don't wear headphones because they want to be talked to.

[venusss]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

Gosh, I don't find anything wrong with the article at all and give him kudos for trying to form relationships with women.

I guess the article is his solution to trying to break through a very closed off society. So many people must be walking around with headphones as if to say 'I want to be left alone!'

Not even being single means I want to hook up. Seriously, I am annoyed with the "oh looky, a woman! I am a man, that means she must find me attractive and be immediatelly interested in me, just cause I am a man and she is a woman" NOT.

There are so many other ways to form relationship with woman than approaching random woman who is listening to her music and minding her own business.

[lizardlady]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

Gosh, I don't find anything wrong with the article at all and give him kudos for trying to form relationships with women.

I guess the article is his solution to trying to break through a very closed off society. So many people must be walking around with headphones as if to say 'I want to be left alone!'

The part that bothers me is walking up to a total stranger and assuming she is looking to hook up. Sorry, to me this kind of behavior is creepy. I agree with Venuss. The way to start a conversation with a woman wearing headphones is DON'T! I don't know, maybe it's just me, but some strange guy walking up to me and trying to start a conversation is off putting.

[avlady]

When i was young and nieve i probably would stop to chat, just to be polite, i know that sounds sick now, but with all the @#$% going on in this world today, i would never give someone i didn't know the time of day. Well thats my 2 cents-women be carefull.

My gut reaction is that this is gimmicky and he's after his 5 minutes of fame on the internet - which he seems to have got.

[healingme4me]

I don't walk around with headphones on, might be the street smarts side of me. That said, delving deeper into the blog was realizing that he's promoting confidence in men, as they approach women. Sort of an old fashioned side to it and saying that women truly aren't so unapproachable.

[scorpiosis37]

I found this article quite offensive. I regularly put on headphones when I'm in public in order to dissuade strangers from trying to approach me. It still doesn't work as well as I would like. I HATE it when men think they have the "right" to interrupt me and demand my attention when I'm busily going about my day (working, shopping, commuting, etc).

[BipolarMama31]

Originally Posted by scorpiosis37

I found this article quite offensive. I regularly put on headphones when I'm in public in order to dissuade strangers from trying to approach me. It still doesn't work as well as I would like. I HATE it when men think they have the "right" to interrupt me and demand my attention when I'm busily going about my day (working, shopping, commuting, etc).

Yes. Exactly. Worded 100% perfect.

[healingme4me]

In the author's defense, I delved even further, he did write that if a woman isn't interested in being approached, and shakes her head no at the gestured excuse me, with hand gesture on taking off headphones, to respect that and move on.

[scorpiosis37]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

In the author's defense, I delved even further, he did write that if a woman isn't interested in being approached, and shakes her head no at the gestured excuse me, with hand gesture on taking off headphones, to respect that and move on.

So there is a specific gesture one has to learn in order to get this particular guy to back off? And it's probably different for each guy. Women shouldn't have to learn a series of code gestures in order to be left alone. And spend their days repeating these gestures over and over? This guy should join a dating site so he can meet women who WANT to engage with him. If I could get my time back for each guy who interrupts me on a daily basis, I might actually be able to replenish my sleep deficit.

[Shadix]

I agree that if a woman is wearing headphones it is probably not a good idea to approach her, but I don't agree with this new feminist idea that men shouldn't approach women in general. I recently decided to summon up the courage and approached this girl who works at the gym who always seemed super friendly. Turns out she is interested. She asked me to add her on facebook. The keyboard crusader feminists are always hammering ideas into our heads that we shouldn't approach girls at work, shouldn't approach girls at the gym, shouldn't approach girls out of our league, shouldn't approach younger girls, etc. Well my approaching this girl actually breaks all of those rules. It actually turns out she is a few years OLDER than me, but before I approached her I assumed she was like 5 years younger than me. If had obeyed the advice of the internet feminists, I would still be walking around with my head down trying not to smile too much lest a girl gets the impression I am interested in her.

Just fyi, I posted about this girl a while back and several people on here basically insisted that I should leave her alone and join a dating site. Thanks for the wonderful advice.

And please, no crap about how "she doesn't like you, she is just being nice because she is at work and has no choice". Trust me, if she wasn't making it painstakingly obvious that she is interested, I would not believe that a girl like this would be interested in me.

[lizardlady]

Originally Posted by scorpiosis37

So there is a specific gesture one has to learn in order to get this particular guy to back off?

How about a one finger salute?

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by scorpiosis37

So there is a specific gesture one has to learn in order to get this particular guy to back off? And it's probably different for each guy. Women shouldn't have to learn a series of code gestures in order to be left alone. And spend their days repeating these gestures over and over? This guy should join a dating site so he can meet women who WANT to engage with him. If I could get my time back for each guy who interrupts me on a daily basis, I might actually be able to replenish my sleep deficit.

Lizardlady makes a point. The article discussed a way to use body language/gesture that doesn't invade personal space.

Sorry that it sounds like you've had a fair share of disrespectful twerps.

As a woman, that does not do the dating site scene, I'm not opposed to the gentlemanly approach that the author was writing about.

[s4ndm4n2006]

if someone has headphones on it's, many times, because they are blocking out the rest of the world or at the very least would rather be listening to music. I take it as a cue that I should not bother them unless something urgent needs to be said.