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Oct 07, 2016, 05:00 PM
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I'm a 33yo f going after a 26 yo m... feel like a cougar and ashamed.. but he's so hot! We haven't met, just messaging... the messaging is taking a turn towards the sexting route, which I'm not comfortable with... I won't send pics of me naked to a guy I haven't met regardless of age... Thing is, I wanna meet up with him, but I feel like first thing we do we're just gonna jump into bed together! I'm not looking for a relationship and he's not either.. We both have an understanding that we just want to have fun and he says he's totally ok with everything and that age is just a number... Idk I've never been with I guy where I'm this older than him... The other way around has happened to me though at a much larger age span (me 23yo and him in his 50's??)...
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Oct 07, 2016, 05:18 PM
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No, you're not a cougar yet. I don't think a woman is a cougar until she's around 45 going after 25 year olds.
Seven years age difference isn't that much. I'm older than my husband as was his late mother and his sister is older than their husbands. So long as you have enough in common, don't fuss over the age difference.
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Oct 07, 2016, 06:20 PM
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It doesn't matter. But regardless of age do use a condom
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Oct 07, 2016, 07:02 PM
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I've been so worried about it because my family is so conservative... I told them about my new "crush" and they could only say... Go slow... As in don't have sex for a good long while... Thing is, I am a liberated woman in her 30's... Aka a ****ing adult... If I want to experiment with growing closer to another human via sexual means, that's my choice! And I want to besides!! I don't ****ing need permission!!! But yes, condoms are necessary... I'm a huge promoter of safe sex! It's gonna happen at one point or another.. And ladies and gentlemen, just be prepared! Bring a condom!!! It's that simple! In doing so you will prevent STD's AND Pregnancy!! How bout that!!! /end psa for condoms and safe sex.... So anyways... Yes I plan on using a condom, even if he doesn't (lesson learned from my least ex...) And I forgot what else I was going to say!!! If I remember I'll post back! But in the meantime, I'd love to hear what yall have to say on this particular subject!!! Thank you in advance!! And divine1966;5315082, I thank you so much for your reply, your feedback, and your response... God bless you! 
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Oct 07, 2016, 07:07 PM
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Oct 07, 2016, 07:11 PM
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P.S. And also... What is it like now (how many years later?)
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Oct 07, 2016, 07:14 PM
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Try to focus on building a relationship based on mutual interests instead of just sexual attraction. If you can have both, you'll have hit the jackpot.
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Oct 08, 2016, 02:51 AM
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I generally don't consider those under 40 a cougar ...
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Oct 08, 2016, 01:42 PM
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I wonder if that makes me a cougar then, I had a short affair with a 30 year old and I'm 41. He said no, a cradle snatcher if anything, you have to be about 50 to be a cougar. He said age is just a number too. I do think it's so rare these days to go with a younger man. Don't worry. It's all just labels. I don't think that's a big age gap. It's society's way of trying to control people, putting them in a box. If you are happy then others should be happy for you too and it shouldn't matter. Who cares what people think as long as you and the guy are happy? It's not their business anyway.
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