Racist and difficult bf's dad is driving me crazy. I'm considering to end up

I'll tip toe around this thread when I say this.

You're considering ending a relationship with your bf because his dad is a *******?

My parents are probably one of the biggest racists on the planet ... oh boy don't get me started ... and as for my grandparents - they were all part of the apartheid era.

But it's not a reflection what so ever on who I am, and it shouldn't be a reflection on who your bf is. I don't get a sense that you've heard racist comments from him.

Thing is, no one can change your bf's father. He is who he is. It's not going to make a difference at this stage what anyone says to him about his racists ways; not his wife; not your bf. Some people just have no tact or culture and clearly he is one of them.

Maybe you need your feelings to be more acknowledged by your bf?

Thing is, your bf could intervene every time his father goes off on racist tirades, but how is that going to solve anything? It isn't. Personally if it was me, I'd like to think my bf would say something.

I would think that you need to have a good, long upfront conversation with your bf and tell him how you're feeling. I wouldn't personally "end it cold" or so to speak until you can have a heart to heart about all of this with your bf.

There must be some kind of half way medium you and your bf can come to that both of you agree on and are comfortable with. Some strategies you can put in place for when his father comes over or what to do when his father goes on this rants. If your bf can't agree with this, then yes you can consider plan B which is walking away.

If he is anything like his father I wouldn't never have had anything to do with him in the first place. Some of my family are racists but I make it clear to them that that behavior will NEVER be acceptable around me and if they start it I leave. A few I refuse to go out in public with because they sound like your boyfriend's father. Outside of my family, I don't associate with racists, period (And as for a partner,thankfully, I'm attracted to the opposite race).

I would get away fast.

I agree with you in some points, my grandmother for example is very traditional and very religious. She also has her "ideas" of the world in a sometimes distorted way. However, she was never offensive to people with different ideas, and she always taught us to respect others and be tolerant.
That's not what I see on my bf's dad though. Who in the world would be calling "baboons" and "monkeys" to black people in front of a mulato?
As your family, they're also from apartheid, and they keep saying that black people are destroying the world. I confronted my BF on all this, and he only reply was: Well, tell me one country with black men in charge that's successful. They only survive because of the white man. That hurt me, and I got to the conclusion that racism in tattooed in his should. I can't live with somebody that has this option about the world.

Holy crap your bf sounds more racist than his father. The apple didn't fall far from the tree it bloody well plonked on his head.

You can't change either your bf or his dad, so if I were you, I'd give them both their walking papers. Thar be plenty of better men out thar, lassie.

Personally, I'd do away with him. You deserve better than that. Best of luck to you.