[Artchic528]

I was on Match.com and saw a guy in my "Daily Matches" who not only interested me, but who's profile almost practically mirrored myself and what I'm looking for in a date. Basically, everything that he wrote about was either exactly what I was looking for, or something I liked to do myself.

I don't normally try and get this excited over a guy, nor do I try and get crazy attracted to one profile in a crowd of many, but this guy....he feels different. Come to think of it...I feel different just thinking about him and his profile. Like my head is spinning. Or maybe it's the room that's spinning and my head is standing still. There's also this sort of...pressure in my head....like I feel that my eyeballs are going to pop out...which is silly because they aren't just going to pop out of my skull. Maybe what I'm feeling is more accurately described as if someone smacked me in the face. A smack in the face from a divine source? Like some one from another plane of existence is telling me "Hello!? This guy is special, don't let him get away!!"

Or it could be that I'm just going through a bit of psychosis....

Where was I? Oh yes...I'm feeling strange right now after reading a guy's profile on Match.com.......I almost feel like I already know this guy....I can so see us being on a date.....and said date being a huge success. I sent him a message, so here's hoping he replies.... *crosses fingers*

[Crazy Hitch]

Enjoy the feeling - that's great news!

[Artchic528]

Meh...he's online now but hasn't even viewed my profile, let alone responded. Still feeling so dizzy it's not funny...

[Crazy Hitch]

Maybe he didn't log out and is just AFK

[Artchic528]

Probably. He also might be waiting to reply at a more reasonable hour. It's 4:30 AM here right now.

[Crazy Hitch]

I think you're right on that one

[Artchic528]

I hope so.

[Moogieotter]

Werk it, Artchic!

We're rooting for you!

moogs

As usual I have a different and perhaps disappointing position on this...

Be careful, protect yourself.

Keep in mind that people will naturally appear to have more together and be positive online. I believe it is instinctual to exaggerate our good points and not being so quick to point out the negative regarding our online personalities.

Realize too there are a lot of predators out there. When you do begin to communicate, I actually recommend you google some of the sentences he writes. A great number of predators use a script.

I have a very good example. My BF's sister was gutted $40,000+ dollars. This would have continured had her bank not closed her account and had she not faced prosecution for funding terrorism. Yes, I know this is extreme. I just point this out to warn you.

On the otherhand there are some wonderful people out there. But, if there is the slightest gut instinct or question or hesitance in your mind then listen to your intuition.

[seesaw]

I worry that you get too worked up/excited just over someone's profile. A profile is like a resume of someone's life and personality. And just like a professional resume, people can exaggerate or even lie, or just look good on paper. I feel like you get too emotionally invested too soon...

[Artchic528]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

As usual I have a different and perhaps disappointing position on this...

Be careful, protect yourself.

Keep in mind that people will naturally appear to have more together and be positive online. I believe it is instinctual to exaggerate our good points and not being so quick to point out the negative regarding our online personalities.

Realize too there are a lot of predators out there. When you do begin to communicate, I actually recommend you google some of the sentences he writes. A great number of predators use a script.

I have a very good example. My BF's sister was gutted $40,000+ dollars. This would have continured had her bank not closed her account and had she not faced prosecution for funding terrorism. Yes, I know this is extreme. I just point this out to warn you.

On the otherhand there are some wonderful people out there. But, if there is the slightest gut instinct or question or hesitance in your mind then listen to your intuition.

Originally Posted by seesaw

I worry that you get too worked up/excited just over someone's profile. A profile is like a resume of someone's life and personality. And just like a professional resume, people can exaggerate or even lie, or just look good on paper. I feel like you get too emotionally invested too soon...

Way to burst my bubble....

I don't appreciate your negativity at all.

[seesaw]

I'm sorry, Artchic. I meant it out of concern, not out of a mean place. I just see you get so upset when it doesn't work out, I don't want you to get your hopes up before there is anything to get hopes up about.

I hope this guy messages you back really soon.

Seesaw

[divine1966]

Sometimes your guts just tell you that the guy might be the right one. He might be the one. But do proceed with caution. Find out more about him. Does he work night shifts or otherwise odd hours? He is on dating sites at 2 and 4:30 am? Either works odd hours or is currently overseas. I would ask him. Did he reply?

[Artchic528]

Originally Posted by divine1966

Sometimes your guts just tell you that the guy might be the right one. He might be the one. But do proceed with caution. Find out more about him. Does he work night shifts or otherwise odd hours? He is on dating sites at 2 and 4:30 am? Either works odd hours or is currently overseas. I would ask him. Did he reply?

Thank you Divine. His profile says he works in construction and he lives in a part of the city about 25 minutes from where I live, maybe less.

I got a pleasant surprise in that I received a free upgrade to my membership on Match today. I now have message read notifications. Apparently, he hasn't yet read my message.

I met my husband on an online dating site 14 years ago. I was very honest in my profile and so was my husband. I was a heavy drinker at the time and perhaps it was stupid but I put it right in my profile. I wanted to be honest and didn't want to date someone who supported prohibition or something. My husband gave me the tingles, fuzzies and butterflies from the first message. He was different than who I typically chose to go out with and that was the best part about it. He's wonderful. So my advise is to use common sense like the others mentioned. Be careful (this goes for online and in person....I was abused badly by someone I met through traditional in person meetings). You never know till you try. I hope you meet someone wonderful.

[Crazy Hitch]

Did you hear anything back Art?

[Artchic528]

Originally Posted by Crazy Hitch

Did you hear anything back Art?

Nah. He's obviously not interested in me. Ah well. The search continues.

[LadyShadow]

As long as you don't beat yourself up over it. I personally stopped online dating a while back. Got tired of all the disappointments. So proud of you that you are still trying and putting yourself out there. Just be careful. He's out t here. Just a matter of time.

Gentle (((hugs)))