[pinkvilla]

My husband gets mad over silly things and talks to me angrily or puts me down .It is a hard time for the family with lots of things going on and everyone is coping to their best ability.

Though I understand that he is frustrated,I feel like it is not o.k to behave like this to me. I tried talking to him. He says I make him angry by doing or not doing things according to his expectation. I am beyond angry at him for talking like this. He doesn't come to therapy and I go alone. Nothing is getting solved.

What to do if he doesn't get it. I know I can't live with someone talking to me disrespectfully an getting angry at me and raising his voice. Is it time to walk out for this issue?? I'm so confused. Am I wrong here ?

He says he will not get angry if I do household chores and childcare properly. It is very demeaning and I don't know what to do.

[Thaine]

It sounds like you're at a place where he is being emotionally abusive and is unwilling to try to change or get help. It seems to me like its time for an ultimatum, either he goes to couples therapy with you or you leave. It may be your only realistic option if he wont listen to sense.

[shezbut]

(((((Pinkvilla)))))

That husband of yours sounds like he's being a real jerk. While it may be tempting to throw an ultimatum his way, I think that you should ask your therapist what they think of that idea first. For instance, is it safe? Or, will you have to watch what you say to avoid pushing him any further? I certainly don't know, and I wouldn't want to give you any dangerous advice.

Imo, abuse is abuse. It doesn't take much for an abuser to switch from verbal to physical (been there with my grandpa). Just be wary, that's all.

[gayleggg]

Sounds like emotional abuse to me. I don't blame you for not wanting someone to speak to you this way. Whether his expectations or too high or not he needs to be respectful. If he can't do that I would have to leave. I spent 24 years in a marriage like that and it took it's toll on me emotionally and physically so I don't advise anyone to put up with it. He needs to go to couples counseling with you and if he is not willing then he loses.