Silent Treatment or Just Giving Self Space?

People who say they don't care where their spouses get their appetite have nothing to do with this thread. It's like saying some people have open relationship. It's irrelevant to this thread. Clearly op isn't ok with any of it.

I haven't met anyone (of either gender) who was ok with what this guy did. I think expecting faithfulness is common sense and has nothing to do with control or abuse. I really don't see anything controlling here.

Well if freedom to do what he wants in private time (as long as no disease is brought home) is so valuable, then this guy got plenty of private time now to enjoy himself. Raven is moving on.

So true! Thank you! ((HUGS))

Everyone has their own set of rules for relationships.

Some rules you have to state....because they are not mutually understood. Some rules are mutually understood because you know and love each other and they're part of what you had in common when you met.

There are lots of things my husband would never do because we both think it's wrong. There are lots of things I have asked my husband not to do (and he of me also) and he complies because he loves me.

I'm glad that you're okay, Raven, with having boundaries. I know you will find someone who respects them, no matter what they are.
When the time is right...

Hugs.

ETA: Please don't forget (as I sometimes do) that this is Psych Central. We all joined for a reason...I try to take that into consideration when reading.
I am sure that my own depression sometimes colors my responses...

Awesome post Sophie.

Thanks, Sophie. ((HUGS)) I really do hope someday when the time is ready I can meet someone with similar values when it comes to what is right or wrong in a relatioship when the time is ready. As of now, I think I'm going to stay single for a while since I'm not ready for a relationship and going through some issues.

Also, thanks for reminding me that at Psych Central here, everyone's own mental health issues can have something to do with their responses or styles of communication.

I know earlier in one post I became pretty angry and lashed out, but through VM apologized to that person regarding that since I took a step back and reminded myself that we're all here for a reason. My response in that particular post where I became defensive was very emotionally charged because I was already upset, angry, etc.

However, now I am in a state where I can see the bigger picture that we are experiencing are own issues, so I know I have to be mindful of that at times where my emotions are all over the place. Thanks again!