tearing me apart PLEASE HELP

Okay I recently came out to my parents about me being Bisexual,Which went alot better than I thought it would.
Before I came out to my parents which was last month.
I was in a wonderful relationship(well I thought was wonderful) Then come to find he was a compulsive liar and never cared at all,cause he was in love with someone else. Which that girl is now my girlfriend. were in an open relationship where we can go on dates with guys but no other girls, and last night she called and told me she was going on a date with a great guy and she told me after the date she was comming over to spend the night here. It was about 11:30 and I called her cell phone and a guy answered and it was MY ex boyfriend. I asked where my g/f was and he said lying next to him asleep so I said screw it and hung up. I've told her how much he hurt me after we broke up and shes still going out with him. right now hes at her house and she blew me off again today to hang with him. this is seriously making upset. i know this is what happens in an open realtionship,and he knows me and her are together,but I cant stand it. How do I not loose her but live with this all at the same time.. PLEASE HELP ME

Hello (((UKILLEDME))). Unfortnately OPEN relationships are just that open with no boundaries. I feel that you should reassess whether an OPEN relationship is a wise choice for you at this time. It is not always the wisest decision at your age to be involved in an open relatiooship since boundaries willbe hard to set with the openness of the relationship. Take care and stay safe. Soidhonia

Well...i must say that i almost got confused here!
i feel for you. you really have kinda case!
your exboyfriend is with your girlfriend.

i am sorry that i can`t offer much help as to how do you both not loose her but

"live with this all at the same time"

LIVE that`s what important! i wonder..doyou have any serious feelings for any one of them? whom do you love more?

maybe you don`t need such relationships right now.
i guess those guys both of your EXes- the boy and the girl-are alike in this point-they make take things easier than you do. they seem to be less responsible, less loyal. maybe. and thus maybe both of them aren`t a good company for you.
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now i don`t make a statement here- please don`t take it so- i say that you may think of it and check it out. it`s a question....you may want to ask yourself.

let everythng you discover in this situation-both about them and about yourself-teach you. that`s what happenes to me right now, although not as real and as mixed up as with you. then, you come to understand things about life. next time you will learn to handle situations better.

Hi there --

I'm sorry that you are in pain right now. I watched the "open relationship--open marriage" philosophy tear couples apart in the Sixties and Seventies.

Jealousy is a natural human emotion. Open relationships are not for everyone. As a previous writer stated, if this is causing you to suffer, you will have to evaluate whether openness is right for you.

This may, indeed, mean that you lose your gf. You will have to decide what kind of suffering you prefer -- suffering because you are not emotionally comfortable with sexually open relationships or suffering because you lose your gf when you insist that your boundary for exclusiveness be kept.

Or perhaps you need to insist on threesomes. It's not my ideal, but you will have to decide what's right for you and whether the others will respect your boundaries and needs, once you work them out.

<font color="#000088">Well IMO,if she's willing to just blow you off for this guy,knowing how you feel about this guy! I'd just let her go, and let them have eachother, they seem to be a good couple! Not caring how you feel obviously! And if I were you,I'd find someone else to be with, but set bounderies,and not make it an open relationship, so you won't have to go through the same kind of thing all over again, but with someone else. That's just my opinion though!
I'm sorry you got hurt by them though, it doesn't seem right!
I hope you find someone someday that won't hurt you, the way those two did, and that will love you for who you are unconditionally!
I wish you the best in finding your True Love! </font>

Sorry, not so sure how helpful this is, but if I were you I'd reasses things and probly start over eventhough it's gonna hurt. Things will look up the birds will chirp tomorrow and the sun will come out.... better days are coming!
Take Care of Yourself, Danielle

thanks everyone for ur help ive talked to them both at the same time and we've decided that we all were going to break up and just be friends so no one was hurt any longer