[Stuck1nhead]

I've been with my girlfriend for a couple months now and she still remains very embarrassed of her figure. I keep telling her with complete sincerity that I love her and I love her figure. She's on the heavy side, but not extremely heavy. She only 5'3" at 190 and I'm 6' at 305. So compared to me she is tiny. One evening she mentioned that she want's to get down to 120 and I support her in that. I then go on to say "whether you weigh 120 or 320 you will be beautiful in my eyes" but she just disregards my sincerity. She wont take any compliment regarding her figure. I'm always met with a "I don't know" or "thanks I guess". It kills me that she cannot see her own beauty when I see it all the time. I hate it when a she downs her own physique every morning. I hate it that she refuses to have sex with a lamp on. I hate it when she won't let me touch her belly. I hate that straight after sex she insists on finding her clothes before I can even cuddle. I hate it when she is scared to sit on my lap, lay on top of me, straddle me etc... most of all I hate the look in her eyes

[Krazee2]

I've put on some weight since I started dating my boyfriend two years ago. Then I ran around the house naked. Now I'm just like your girlfriend. When I say something about it, my boyfriend tells me I am beautiful and he loves my body. But I feel like he's lying. I'm not saying he is but when we don't feel good about ourselves and when we hate what we see in the mirror, nobody will convince us that we are beautiful. It's something that we have to do to learn to love ourselves. It's sad but true. Just keeping loving her.

Best wishes

[avlady]

yes it is sad, and do keep loving her, you sound like a couple in love. Weight doesn't bother me that much, i never got rid of my baby fat after my son was born, but it really doesn't bother me right now, i just hope i don't gain any more weight. You are a good person it sounds like and keep up the good work!

[wildflowersinmytea]

Sounds like you are saying the right things and anything deeper she would probably benefit from working out with a therapist. If she would like to lose weight, everyone knows good nutrition and working out. But here are some other tangible things that I've seen make women feel sexy and therefore more comfortable - flattering clothes, lingerie, spa treatments (mani pedi, bikini wax, etc), new hairstyle, exercise classes (yoga, Pilates, pole dancing, etc), detoxes/fasts/gut cleansing, and photo shoots (boudoir especially- a great photographer can make any woman see her own beauty.) I used to work in the beauty industry.

[Stuck1nhead]

She speaks to therapist on a weekly basis for her bipolar and depression. She may actually be on this forum (sorry babe). I just want her to feel beautiful and sexy.