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#1
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Maybe I'm just dumb and this is normal. Is it normal for someone's "dad" to say he is gonna beat your head into the wall, calling you r*tard, fat, f*ggot, ugly, worthless unimportant, go hurt yourself whenever he gets angry. Yet no one else in your family sticks up for you when the idiot calls you names, throws things at you, threatens and tries to hurt you? He does this every time he gets a bipolar episode.
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#2
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It's definitely not normal,it's abuse and I am sorry that is happening.
He should be reported to the police. |
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#3
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You know its not normal, none of it is, or you wouldn't keep posting "is this normal?" threads....
I sadly dont have any advice, as I've seen suggestions on what to do and who to contact have been made numerous times. I would just make myself as scarce as possible and pray I become invisible to them, while I plan my exit strategy. |
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#4
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Nope. Not normal at all.
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#5
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koolz is it your Dad?
This is crazy....he could seriously hurt you or someone else. He needs heavy medication and I agree that when this happens again, the police should be called. How old are you (if this is your Dad) and if so..when can you get the heck out of there? |
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Please, consider the advice that has already been given before repeatedly making the same posts. People have given you great suggestions yet you seem to choose to ignore it and continue this rant. Yes, you have our attention - you have for some time now.
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My question to you is it normal to post the same question, get sensible suggestions and refuse to heed them? I do feel for you. Sounds like a hellish situation. I know because my experiences with my mom growing up was quite similar. Verbal, emotional abuse. Gentle hugs. I say heed what people told you. Because what is the use of asking for advice if you continue to ignore it? Why do you ignoring what others told you to do? Maybe there's a valid reason.
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Agree with the other posters. We've already given you heaps of advice on this situation. Please consider going back and reading what we've said
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I wouldn't assume that this behavior is due to him having bipolar disorder. Having bipolar tendencies doesn't automatically make someone a complete jerk. He may have less control when he gets into an amped up state, but there is some other origin to his behavior than the onset of a manic episode. It would help you greatly to discover what that is. Look to how he grew up. What were his parents like? How did they treat him? People who rage like he does are expressing their own sense of powerlessness. He sounds totally pathetic.
Are you ever able to have any kind of an actual conversation with him? You might think you wouldn't even want to. But there's a story behind his behavior. You'ld learn a lot by finding out what that story is. I'm not saying you should look for ways to excuse the inexcusable. I'm saying you might want to try and figure out how he developed into who he is. No one just suddenly becomes a certain way. You will feel less powerless when you understand what forces operate on your father's mind. He is the one who let himself become powerless in the face of some adversity that he faced growing up. |
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Exactly. Your father's behavior could stem from something as basic as he himself being the product of a dysfunctional family and poor parenting. Not to provide him excuses but it could also stem from being unable to cope with stress. Behaving as such is not merely an indicatior of mental illness. I like the suggestion of trying to talk to him if the opportunity arises.
Still, his actions are wrong. I took the time to research helpful resources for you. What became of that help and the other suggestions provided? |
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