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I don't see how/ or WHAT this accomplish's. My parents don't want to get me driving lessons, or teach me how to. They won't even get me a bike, I'm homeschooled and in 2 years at 18(or before then) they want to kick me out. But they refuse to give me the tools to survive. With not teaching me how
to drive or getting me some type of transportation(bike) I'm unable to get a job to save up money. I live in the south. There's no bus stop out here, it's near the city which is far away on foot(it is 30 miles away) but the places you can get jobs, they're 15 miles away and there are not any sidewalks to walk on. I'm excluded from family get togethers, my parents get angry if I go with. I've gotten physically abused for 8 years but the mental abuse is still going on. I don't have too many older people I can go to for advice. So what is this accomplishing that my parents are doing? Is it normal for parents to plan on when 18, kicking you out with them knowing they never taught you to drive/ got you a bike, took you to a job to save money? I can't even buy a bike since I have never had a job so no money = no bike = no nothing. |
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I don't have any answers for you. I live in the country and understand your problem with getting places without a car or bike. It's a shame your parents have not taught you the necessary things in life to succeed. It will be up to you to teach yourself how to get along in the world. This abuse is just wrong but you have to move forward no matter how hard it is.
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I've tried before but they never end up doing anything.
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try a kids help phone line. Google it to find one for your region
You can start, meanwhile, making plans for when you do leave home. You can be researching jobs. Get an idea for the cost of living (ie. what can you expect for a rental situation, food, utilities, and other essentials). Are there programs that can offer you assistance as you transition into the work force? programs that can help you learn a skill? Investigate scholarships that may be available. Things sound very strict at home. I can relate. What you haven't said is the reason your parents are restricting your independence. Have you asked them their plan or grand scheme for you? |
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As infuriating as these things they say may be, they are lead-ins for an in depth conversation. For example, when they say "It's a waste of money" tell them you want to change that. "Not our problem" can become "yes, it is my problem and I'd like to be responsible for it", etc.
What do you do around the home? Do you have responsiblities or take charge of anything to demonstrate you are capable of being self sufficient? Are you doing things that would command respect? You need to pull out all the stops to show you are deserving of respect. I am sorry but the responses from your parents you have shown us tell me your parents think you carry yourself with a sense of entitlement. I am not saying this must be the case but it seems to be your mom and dad's interpretation of things. |
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I can easily envision your isolated, soon-to-end situation and your presently having no visible bridge-to-the-future ahead of you. I can also understand calling the police and such only helps when an actual law has been broken...and it seems your parents have not done that.
Your profile indicates you are in Tn, so maybe take a look at this: Quote:
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what is the age of majority there? I just assumed it was 18
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Age is not a factor when petitioning for emancipation even though other requirements such as providing for oneself financially could be age-related.
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| manic-depressive with psychotic tendencies (1977) | chronic alcoholism (1981) | Asperger burnout (2010) | mood disorder - nos / personality disorder - nos / generalized anxiety disorder (2011) | chronic back pain / peripheral neuropathy / partial visual impairment | Gastrointestinal Stromal Tumors (incurable cancer) | |
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My parents pay a company to do yard work. I've tried making them meals before, and after I tell my parents I have food ready for them. Don't know why, but it makes them mad and I get yelled at for "messing with their things." They have this strange thing, where they don't like me touching their stuff.
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It is 18. I heard it's 19 in some places around here, but mostly where I am at 18.
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Tennessee crisis and support help line:
https://www.google.ca/url?sa=t&sourc...kP_GfU3YitBaYQ Tennessee youth mental health crisis line: https://www.kidcentraltn.com/article...s-for-children List of help and hotlines for youth: https://www.google.ca/url?sa=t&sourc...UO6k-hyBNoreeQ |
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Now that the holiday season has passed have you managed to contact the services that justafriend listed for you? |
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