After being triggered by the portrayal of a toxic relationship in a movie, my husband knew something was up by my change in affect and when I told him that I made an account on here he wanted me to get rid of it. In the end we compromised and he said I could stay but the deal was no chatting or my account goes. When you have nowhere else to go is it so bad to look online for support? I know its complicated because my choice of support triggers him in past traumas he was exposed to because of me through the internet. I just wish I had more opportunities to even make friends in the real world.

[LeeeLeee]

If he knew type of forum and chat this is, it might be less threatening. It's unwise to cater to anyone's insecurities. Maintaining transparency and building trust does not mean we create rules to control our partners. Each of you will need to understand what your boundaries are and what you can live happily with and without and communicate your needs from a desire to live more freely. Best of luck.

I'm not sure what your activity is on the site. I myself - chiefly out of respect for my SO - limit my activity to the forums. Have the two of you conversed about social media expectation? What are you own feelings about him chatting?

My own social media friends are limited to only those acquaintances I know offline. I expect the same of my SO. But that is me. I have a past history in relationships where other men in my life's online activites have crossed the line.

[ComfortablyNumb5]

What exactly is his problem with a support forum?? My bf knows this place helps me and it's a great outlet. He's never asked me to delete my account BUT he does get mad if a guy sends me a PM that is out of the sites context. Those ones I ignore altogether.

I appreciate all of your input. Thank you all. He is very prtective when it comes to the internet as it has almost ruined our marriage several times before by choices made on my part. We talked again later and he still wished for me to remove my account so now I am just waiting for it to be terminated. I guess I dug my own grave (so to speak as in not literally and don't be triggered because that's not what I meant).