I wanted a goodnight kiss...

I'm confused right now. I just got home from my date with "D", and not even a kiss. I would think that by the end of the second date, a kiss would have happened. I'm disappointed a bit. What should I do?

I wouldn't worry too much about it, to be honest. Some people like to take it slower than others. Did the date go fine otherwise?

Perhaps after your third date, if he doesn't make a move, you could go in for a kiss? Just a thought.

Hmm maybe wait longer?

A New Year's Eve date and you are home before midnight?

How'd the whole date go?

I agree with this. Before midnight?

How did the date go otherwise? Do you feel you were friend-zoned??

Well, the thing is, I'm completely awkward socially, and well, He is too, so there were a lot of awkward pauses here and there. I sent him a text reminding him of how socially awkward I am, that I've been burned bad, and that I'd like to go on more dates, if possible.

What did you think of him? Did you like him as much as the first date?

I do. I think he's smart, attractive, and well educated. He even knows who Jackson Pollock is. I like him very much.

That moment where you said good bye, and there is usually a kiss, what happened?

He hugged me, said "We should do this again sometime."

It might just be he is moving slow, and you say you did tell him you have been hurt, so maybe that's also making him take it slow.

"We should do this again sometime" is a wait and see kind of comment.

My sister once had a date that was a fix up by our grandma. The guy was gorgeous. He took her out dancing, and he was an amazing dancer. He took her home and she puckered her lips awaiting that good night kiss. And the guy gazed into her eyes and said "It's times like this I wish I was straight!"

Well, he replied to my text, and said he wasn't in the right headspace for romantic dates and we should just hang out as friends until we aren't so awkward around each other. Methinks that's Man Speak for "I ain't interested in you that way".

That sounds like a good plan.

I'd be receptive to going out with him again if he asks you to do something with him 'as friends'.

Meanwhile, back to the old drawing board--NEXT!

Yeah that seems like a "backout" moment. Maybe he really just is too socially awkward. Sorry it didn't work out. But it's better you know now better than later.

I'm just going to....uh.....yeah.

Listen, I know how you feel. Just allow yourself to accept what happened, and go through the motions. It's crappy, cause I know you really liked him. But you have a lot going for and a lot you accomplished this year as far as learning about relationships. Cheers to 2017 and just enjoy yourself now.

Eh...what's to look forward to in 2017 anyway?

You have to kiss a lot of frogs until you find a prince.

This one spared you the kiss.

This guy might still turn into something. Just play it cool with him, maybe he'll see you again.

But still, keep on looking for a next one.

I know you mean well and yes, I know they have truth to them, but honestly, I hate those damn platitudes with a passion.

Oh well...

13 minutes to a new year.

Honestly? I am scared to death of 2017. Not much to look forward to at all.

Males.....

I was going to say the "let's do this again sometime" comment is the kiss of death.

I'm sorry it didn't work out. On to the next one!

Seesaw

maybe you should make the first move, he might be too shy or doesn't want to push you away.

From my experience, and I have a lot, guys struggle when you say you have been hurt a lot. It puts them in a panic space. If they are a decent guy they don't want to be " that guy" and if they are an as whole they think " baggage, and no sex" .
You have to be responsible for your own well being at least until things are much further along. They need to know your not relying on them for you to feel good or happy. It's too much of a responsibility when they r just getting to know you.
Just be careful how much you share.