[BadWolfC]

I feel like I must be losing my mind... I'm married, and I have a very good relationship with my husband. But recently I came across someone who has thrown a wrench in all that without even realizing it. This man I hardly know has my mind running in circles around itself. The sad thing is that he doesn't even know me, I'll be meeting him for the first time in a week.

I know the reason for all these feelings that I'm having. This man that I'll be meeting is everything I ever wanted. I know, I haven't met him, yet I can make that claim. It sounds crazy, but somehow I know it's real. I have a knack for reading people, and he is... different. I've never met anyone like me, but he seems to share a lot in common with me as far as personality traits go. I feel like he could be the person I spent so long looking for, but never found.

So I guess my real concern is... do I stay where I feel safe, and with someone who loves me, or do I investigate the possibility of getting to know someone who could be my soul mate? Obviously I don't have anything to really worry about yet... everything is just in my head right now. But if I ever have to make that choice, I don't know what I'll do. I don't feel like I can let this go. I can't explain it, but it's very important to me. I just wish it wasn't tearing me apart like this.

[Crazy Hitch]

You're playing with fire ... you yourself said you're in a good relationship with your husband.

So rather don't put yourself in a tempting position.

Yes, on the surface this guy looks like everything you've ever wanted.

But so was your husband at one stage. Yeah, we all have our flaws and marriages have ups and downs but any relationship requires work.

I'd suggest instead of investing your energy into this potential home wrecker, devote that energy to your husband and seek ways to spice up your marriage.

[Lost_in_the_woods]

I agree whole heartedly with Crazy Hitch!
There is never a justified reason to go outside your marriage... no matter how tempted...you made a commitment you can not play both sides and see where the chips fall..best case scenario it doesn't go far and you live with a guilty conscious...worst case scenario you destroy 3 hearts/lives... don't do it!
~Scarlett♡☆(lost)

[BadWolfC]

Update: My husband and I have been talking about this a lot... and we've realized that neither of us is happy. We mutually have decided to take a break and look into counseling...

[saddestpanda]

Originally Posted by BadWolfC

Update: My husband and I have been talking about this a lot... and we've realized that neither of us is happy. We mutually have decided to take a break and look into counseling...

This is quite a turn from the very good relationship you described at the start of the thread. I am glad you had the strength to talk about the state of your marital relationship with your husband to your husband.

I hope you are each able to find peace.

[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by BadWolfC

I feel like I must be losing my mind... I'm married, and I have a very good relationship with my husband. But recently I came across someone who has thrown a wrench in all that without even realizing it. This man I hardly know has my mind running in circles around itself. The sad thing is that he doesn't even know me, I'll be meeting him for the first time in a week.

I know the reason for all these feelings that I'm having. This man that I'll be meeting is everything I ever wanted. I know, I haven't met him, yet I can make that claim. It sounds crazy, but somehow I know it's real. I have a knack for reading people, and he is... different. I've never met anyone like me, but he seems to share a lot in common with me as far as personality traits go. I feel like he could be the person I spent so long looking for, but never found.

So I guess my real concern is... do I stay where I feel safe, and with someone who loves me, or do I investigate the possibility of getting to know someone who could be my soul mate? Obviously I don't have anything to really worry about yet... everything is just in my head right now. But if I ever have to make that choice, I don't know what I'll do. I don't feel like I can let this go. I can't explain it, but it's very important to me. I just wish it wasn't tearing me apart like this.

If you want to meet this guy that there is no way you can know he's your soul mate or not, then leave your marriage first. Unless that is, you are doing it with your husband knowing what you're doing, you're basically cheating. You say you have a good husband and make it sound like your happy, if you were this would not be a consideration. I don't think you're really as content with your marriage as you claim.

You need to decide if this new guy is worth leaving your marriage for and then do that - and then meet the guy.

As others have said this is playing with fire.

[eskielover]

Don't even meet or communicate with this guy. If counselling doesn't help then but not until. That would be saying why bother with counselling you already know you want to leave.

The grass ALWAYS looks greener on the other side of the fence because you don't know who is watering it.

[MickeyCheeky]

Counseling is a good decision.. I wish you good luck!

I admire you for talking about this with your husband.