Need help quick!

Seesaw, that's great news - and I understand your misgivings but from your posts here I can tell you have a lot going for you. You are a smart, capable and caring woman!

Thanks, prefab!

Yay !!! Sounds like a nice guy !

Seesaw you are focusing on what you feel are not your best qualitys there is much more to you than these things and other people never judge us the way we judge ourselves, be kind to yourself and give yourself the chance of some happiness,i met my second husband on a dating website i was terrified and had to be shoved out the door !!! But i have never looked back he is the best thing to have ever happened to me. Oh and i was 41 at the time. Good luck keep us posted please

Awesome seesaw, don't go out with expectations, just go out for the hell of it. Shame about the orchestra not working out you might have felt more comfortable there.
Still good on you girl , here's wishing u all the best.

Yeah I'm talking to a man from a dating website. I gained weight from my back injury and meds. I haven't been with anyone since I've gained the weight. I understand where you're coming from. But you seem really intelligent and interesting. There's more to us than our weight. I'm taking my dating this man as practice. I really do like him, but it might not work out. So instead of getting my hopes up I just see it as practice.

I hope you have fun on your date.

Well, I don't know if this is going to happen or not. He gave me his number because he wanted to text, which is fine. I don't want to text a whole lot but I don't know a whole lot about him, so I do want to know some basic things...well, he starts asking me how old I am, and I'm confused because it's right there on my profile...so I asked, I thought it was playful, "isn't it on my profile?" and he didn't understand my playfulness and said I was in a bad mood (kinda weird because we just met).

Then, he made a kind of sexual comment, and I responded, wow, you went there fast...when I was younger, I probably wouldn't mind getting into a sort of sexting thing or being super flirtatious, but I really don't know anything about this guy, and I'm certainly not feeling that far along in our flirtation...anyways, he got all defensive when I said he went there fast and said something like you can judge me but that's on you...etc...

I'm just getting the sense of someone who is either extremely sensitive or socially awkward or emotionally immature...red flags...I think I might have to cut this one off. I think he's just in it for the sex...And he clearly thinks of me as older, which I don't like.

Sigh...now I feel super depressed.

seesaw

((((seesaw))))

I'm so sorry. I feel like in reading your thread from the op to this last post I experienced the excitement and everything down to this disappointing turn around. A pet peeve that I'm developing is "well it's on you" (snigger, chuckle, unaccountable, no empathy expression that it comes accross as).

Hope I'm wrong but not knowing your age? Sexual tone before meeting or in the first day?

I'm sorry. There's got to be a better way

I am feeling really disappointed and low now.

Oh no he sounds like a d head based on your last post here.

I wouldn't bother meeting, not with his attitude. It stinks.

It's not your fault and nothing you did.

Hey, a little girl in a waiting room today told me I was pretty. It made my day. It's still flattering that he was attracted to you. Don't let it bring you down.

If anything has come clear is your feelings about wanting kids. 40's are the new 30s in that department. No wonder there's an added feeling of low about this.

Yeah, and now he's like trying to argue with me. And it's very confusing. He's very cute but I'm calling this one.

I don't know if I really want kids or if that is just changing all of a sudden because I'm getting older and am worried that I won't be able to. It's all good and fine when you can but don't want to, but when you can't and decide you made a mistake?

My mom was told in her late 40s when she remarried that there was still a chance. Janet Jackson just had a baby at 50. Until it's been a year without a cycle, it's still possible. With that in mind, maybe refine your search a tad? Online seems hit and miss for many, are there other outlets that you branched out to?

I don't really have time for other outlets. I work SO much...I don't have time to meet people other places. And there really aren't any other places I go where there are eligible men.

I vote that you slam a bang into this guy just for practice.

Slam a bang?

It's from Leviticus. It means exactly what you think it does.

If I could get his obtuse brain to stop arguing with me, I would absolutely slam a bang into him...but alas, he's incomprehensible....explains why he's single.

Seesaw

I"ll be honest here too, he was a dead ringer for my favorite actor/eye candy...so I was a little smitten...but he just wants sex...and I've been there and done that.

He just wants sex?

I'd personally pass. (I've been there, done that, too.)

I've also fallen for someone just because they remind me of someone else in my past, someone else that I really wanted but could never have. Soon enough you realize that beyond looks, the new person is nothing like the old person.

Are you sure its not from two Corinthians?

I heard on YouTube that all men just want sex.

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