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Old Apr 19, 2017, 12:01 AM
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I just feel alone right now. Throughout my whole life I had a hard time making friends. I wasn't included in the group and I feel like I've missed out on good times where other people got together without me. I just feel like I never had people I really connected with. I just wish I had someone to talk to right now. So I just feel like I missed out on my life and I don't know if I can keep going.
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Old Apr 19, 2017, 12:12 AM
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Welcome to the club. I've had issues making friends in real life as well because I'm an Uber introvert and a socially awkward geek who is more into video games and anime than people haha

The best advice I can give you is if you are into a hobby such as books, video games, or something else, to find local gatherings or events for people interested in your specific hobby and go from there.

Otherwise maybe try to meet friends online? I know it isn't the most ideal way to make friends but from experience, it's easier to make friends on social media or online gaming for people who are introverted than meeting people the "traditional" way, not to mention, most of what few true friends I've made in my life I met most of them online either via one of my online games or by Facebook back when I used it.
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Old Apr 19, 2017, 12:43 AM
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Yeah I like video games and anime too. I don't really know of places to go and I would probably just have a hard time talking to people anyways unless I was really drunk. I just got back from sakura-con a few days ago. Its an anime convention in case you didn't know. I went with some friends and went for all three days. It was pretty cool. I should hang out with my close friends more. Ive just been in situations where people didint seem to care and had a hard time making connections with people and where people didn't understand me.
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Old Apr 19, 2017, 12:47 AM
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Oh and one piece is awsome. Its like my favorite show right now and I saw some people where dressed as trafalgar law there at sakura con.
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Old Apr 19, 2017, 01:41 AM
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Oh and one piece is awsome. Its like my favorite show right now and I saw some people where dressed as trafalgar law there at sakura con.
Yeah man he's such a cool character and I want his clothes so bad haha

Gonna buy replicas of his heart pirate stuff and hat when I get some spare cash.
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Old Apr 19, 2017, 01:43 AM
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Oh and at least you do have some friends to go to conventions with so it's all good. Cherish them.

I actually used to be a hardcore WoW addict several years ago and I had several friends/guildmates that I met at Blizzcon in 2011 which was one of the most memorable times in my life and it was fun meeting people that I played WoW with in real life for the first time.

In fact, that period of my life was probably one of the few instances in my life where I was truly happy. I regret selling my WoW account and dropping contact with most of them

Don't do what I did.
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Old Apr 19, 2017, 03:01 AM
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I can relate a lot to what you say.. I've never had friend in my whole life I'm so sorry..
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Old Apr 19, 2017, 03:07 AM
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I can relate a lot to what you say.. I've never had friend in my whole life I'm so sorry..
Im sorry you've never had a friend.
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Old Apr 19, 2017, 01:06 PM
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You said you're a gamer, yes? What kind of games do you play?
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Old Apr 19, 2017, 01:37 PM
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OMGeeee I love Luffy!!!
Sadly I've run out of One Piece episodes waiting for more....

I only have 2 close friends, I figure its better to measure in quality instead of quantity.

Glad you got to go to the convention, and I agree that if you want to widen your social circle, its best to find like minded people to enjoy your interests with.
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Old Apr 19, 2017, 01:51 PM
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OMGeeee I love Luffy!!!
Sadly I've run out of One Piece episodes waiting for more....

I only have 2 close friends, I figure its better to measure in quality instead of quantity.

Glad you got to go to the convention, and I agree that if you want to widen your social circle, its best to find like minded people to enjoy your interests with.
Got fully caught up on OP last Dec because my way of coping with loneliness due to not having any family to spend Christmas with was streaming OP for 8-10 hours a day. I got through the entire Summit War arc up to Dressrosa in 3 weeks haha

I wish I had a friend like Luffy IRL; somebody who would go to such lengths to fight for a friend. I set my profile as Trafalgar Law because he is the most relatable character for me in the show not to mention he looks so cool

The straw hat pirates are my pretend family

Got to say I am really enjoying this thread.
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Old Apr 19, 2017, 06:03 PM
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Whats been bothering me is that the people I hung out with I didn't really talk to much so I felt alone around them. Some people didn't really care and some people I really wanted to be friends with but I had a hard time talking with them. I think I'm just feeling this way cause I feel like I've missed out and I felt alone around people probably cause people would isolate me back in elementary and middle school. There where a lot of mean people back in those days. Then in high school people didnt really seem to care. I mean people seemed to like me but didn't really seem to care cause maybe I'm to boring for them. Im a really quiet person too so they probably just saw me as someone who just rarely talked but sometimes its just I have a hard time talking to people. I dont know its really complicated. I don't really care about having a lot of friends its just that theres certain people I really liked that I wanted to be friends with and still do and I feel like I just missed out on things I really wanted to do. I would try talking to some people sometimes but it didn't really work out. I just feel like years of my life was pretty much just wasted and thats whats been bothering me.
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Old Apr 19, 2017, 06:15 PM
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You said you're a gamer, yes? What kind of games do you play?
I have a ps4 an xbox360 and a wii. So I play like mario and legend of zelda games on wii and dark souls, skyrim, assassins creed, batman arkham knight and some fighting games on ps4 and xbox. Like I got this one piece fighting game and a naruto fighting game. I got a bunch of other games too. I used to play guitar hero all the time.
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Old Apr 19, 2017, 06:17 PM
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I have a ps4 an xbox360 and a wii. So I play like mario and legend of zelda games on wii and dark souls, skyrim, assassins creed, batman arkham knight and some fighting games on ps4 and xbox. Like I got this one piece fighting game and a naruto fighting game. I got a bunch of other games too. I used to play guitar hero all the time.
And then theres super smash bros and mario kart.
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Old Apr 19, 2017, 08:35 PM
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Such a shame that you don't game on PC; I would have been willing to give you my Steam or Battle.net info

I don't do console gaming anymore because modern day consoles are too much like dumbed down PCs only with less powerful hardware than a true PC as well as less control over how you customize a game.

I used to love the hell out of old school Nintendo (both the Super NES and N64) as well as the Sega Genesis. Now I mostly play online Strategy, MMOs, and MOBAs on PC with the occasional single player survival or RPG game thrown in the mix
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Old Apr 19, 2017, 08:42 PM
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Whats been bothering me is that the people I hung out with I didn't really talk to much so I felt alone around them. Some people didn't really care and some people I really wanted to be friends with but I had a hard time talking with them. I think I'm just feeling this way cause I feel like I've missed out and I felt alone around people probably cause people would isolate me back in elementary and middle school. There where a lot of mean people back in those days. Then in high school people didnt really seem to care. I mean people seemed to like me but didn't really seem to care cause maybe I'm to boring for them. Im a really quiet person too so they probably just saw me as someone who just rarely talked but sometimes its just I have a hard time talking to people. I dont know its really complicated. I don't really care about having a lot of friends its just that theres certain people I really liked that I wanted to be friends with and still do and I feel like I just missed out on things I really wanted to do. I would try talking to some people sometimes but it didn't really work out. I just feel like years of my life was pretty much just wasted and thats whats been bothering me.
I can certainly relate to you because I also feel like I wasted most of my life due to my introversion and my plethora of other issues.

I'm 25 yet I've never had a serious relationship with a girl, never been to a party, never had a regular 9-5 job because of my mental health issues and mostly got by via self employment and occasional odd jobs and contract work, and I've never had any "normal" friendships. Heck, I never even got my driver's license or got to go to a prom or anything during my high school days because I couldn't even function in high school.

All I've ever had to keep me happy is my games, anime, fictional books/shows, and music.

I don't know what else to say
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Old Apr 20, 2017, 12:13 AM
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I can certainly relate to you because I also feel like I wasted most of my life due to my introversion and my plethora of other issues.

I'm 25 yet I've never had a serious relationship with a girl, never been to a party, never had a regular 9-5 job because of my mental health issues and mostly got by via self employment and occasional odd jobs and contract work, and I've never had any "normal" friendships. Heck, I never even got my driver's license or got to go to a prom or anything during my high school days because I couldn't even function in high school.

All I've ever had to keep me happy is my games, anime, fictional books/shows, and music.

I don't know what else to say
I don't know what else to say either. Sorry you never got to do any of those things. I've never had a serious relationship with a girl or got to go to a prom either and I had a hard time with school and during high school I ended up going to a school with other people who had problems.
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Old Apr 20, 2017, 07:49 AM
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I don't know what else to say either. Sorry you never got to do any of those things. I've never had a serious relationship with a girl or got to go to a prom either and I had a hard time with school and during high school I ended up going to a school with other people who had problems.
If only I lived in WA, I would totally be friends with you

One day, perhaps sometime within the next couple of years, I do plan on moving up there.

I can't stand the state where I live right now because I can't relate to the vast majority of people who live here.
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Old Apr 20, 2017, 08:52 AM
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I can relate a lot to what you say.. I've never had friend in my whole life I'm so sorry..
I'm sorry you've never had a friend. Even though we are on-line, I'll be your friend.

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Old Apr 20, 2017, 08:56 AM
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I think your history of being bullied is a significant - that can really knock our confidence.

I had that experience too - I would give up on friendships quite easily and was very sensitive to rejection. It took a long time to find the right tribe to be with, but in time it came. I agree with the advice to follow your passion and you will meet others along the way who are similar.
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