They treat me like a maid...

I am traveling with boyfriend and his family to visit his brother at his home.
The house is very big and we are 6 adults. I am a very clean person and like to help and have everything clean and organized.
The problem is that I am the one one cleaning the mess of everyday.
I clean all dishes, pan and also floors. They keep cooking and living all dishes, pots and pans for me to clean.
My bf and his parents wake up around 5 am, but I don't like waking up before 6:30 am. I do all my things in the room and go down for breakfast around 7:30 am, and when I get there I see dirty coffee cups and all breakfast food on the counter waiting for me. I left all clean the night before and now have to clean everything again. I even made a test the other day and didn't clean the breakfast stuff, and when it was 3 pm there were so many dirty dishes that all counters were full of them.
This morning I had an argument with bf because he offered to make me coffee and he took a dirty cup to use because all were dirty. I'm the only person here cleaning and he gives me a dirty cup????
What should I do? Should I pack my stuff and leave?
I tried to discuss this with him and he got very upset saying that I should clean as his parents are old to help and I am the only woman on the group. His brother is the host, so the doesn't clean, his boyfriend is too lazy, and my boyfriend....well he's too macho I guess.

Well, I can't tell you what to do.

I would have been gone already. And out of that relationship.

Not one time have you mentioned that they asked you to clean for them. YOU are a clean freak. YOU put it upon yourself to clean for them. You DO NOT have to clean for them simply because YOU like to be neat and tidy. It's more likely than not that it's offensive to THEM that you are being a maid for them. I would be so pissed off if any of my friends or boyfriends that I do not live with began doing the dishes they did not make and cleaning the house for me when I did not ask them to. I would be SO. PISSED. OFF. That is beyond rude and insulting. It truly is. It's not your job to pick up after them and it is not your place to be upset when you bring it upon yourself to be the maid for being a clean freak and get no help. Not your job. Not your problem.

If you really want to make it a big deal, clean up after yourself, NOT them. They are perfectly capable of doing the dishes themselves. Don't cause unneeded drama for involving yourself in household duties because you're a clean freak. You're not the maid. You do not live in that household. Do your share and let them do their share.

There is nothing wrong with what you are doing since the host is either unwilling or unable, but yes, now you know your boyfriend is an inconsiderate *$$!

Was the house clean when you arrived? His brother must be getting it clean somehow when you aren't there...

Yes, my boyfriend did asked me to help. I'm not a clean freak, but I can't live like a pig. And I also think that's a common sense, education and respect when you're a guest.

Yes, they have a maid that comes once a week. However, the house gets too dirty in one day.

I would have a problem with it when he said that you were the only woman in the group...as if gender matters when it comes to who does the cleaning. I think everyone should pitch in. Personally I could not be with someone who holds such an old fashioned and sexist view.

I think you should just stop cleaning altogether so they notice what you do.

Who is doing the cooking?

I have been on the other end of this and I think it is nice of her to help out. But, the other guests need to help also. Certainly the parents are old but can one of them help dry? and your bf? what the heck is he doing?

I entertained my ex's mom, dad, brother, and uncle for 3 days and it was frustrating as heck for me. I did all the cooking, and when everyone got done eating they all went off either into the next room or all went outside. Not once did any of them offer to help me. I was pissed beyong pissed. I was used to just me and my ex and suddenly I am being the maid, cook and bottle washer to four other people. And no my ex didn't help either.

Whenever I was at his parents home and we had dinner together I always offered to help with the cooking, dishes, anything and she never wanted any help.

Okay, what would happen if you just didn't do it. Are you prepared to live with the chaos for a while. Could it be that you are partly to blame for this? That, in your doing so consistently that they have come to expect it.

Also who is footing the bill for this? THis comes to mind too.

All last year I reluctantly helped out and even ran some events for a charity. I have learned now not to RSVP and not to arrive until the last minute when things get sorted out or to not go at all. I think that there are things you might be able to draw from this. Namely, Keep yourself busy with other things until the last minute. Make yourself unavailable to do these tasks.

Thank you guys. I will do exactly that, will let the chaos take over. And that's exactly what his bros bf has been doing from start. He keeps himself busy and doesn't help on anything. When I host people in my house I make sure they're well and isn't expect them to clean and cook for me.
This morning they had breakfast, my bf asked me to come down and eat with them (probably they needed someone to wash the dishes after), I jus said that I wasn't hungry. When I finally went down I saw all the dirty pans and plates. I'm not cleaning after their mess anymore.

I'm sorry you had to go through this also. It is really frustrating. They're a bunch of selfish people, starting with my bf. And I will definitely not joining them ever again. My bf is planning another family vacation for September, but I already told him that I'd be busy with work. I could do but I'm just not in the mood. I'd rather work for my boss that become again a maid for them. At least my boss know how to say thank you...

You are smart. Thanks for the advice