[fijiisland]

I Had a purely sexual relationship with a guy for almost 3 years on and off. He was constantly texting me, asking when he could see me, telling me I am gorgeous, etc. then it gradually stopped and got to the point where he would text me things like "you must be out with your new boyfriend right now", "you must be getting laid right now". so I would respond to him with "you must be just finished having sex now" (this was normal for us to text each other crazy stuff like this). He would ALWAYS RESPOND to my texts and now he wasn't responding at all! It was as if I did not exist and he wasn't getting my texts! Then all contact just stopped. So for months I have not heard from him or texted him. I assumed he found someone else. It hurt but I tried to move on.

Then this week he just texted me saying "you there" And he also send an email the same day saying "how are things with you?" (the weird thing is he never sent texts to me like this. it was ALWAYS hey beautiful, when can I see you, I need you, etc. It was never "how are you doing" So I just responded with a "hello" and I got no response from him! Then a week later I send a partially nude picture as a test to see what he would do. And he never responded! so I take that as he is not interested. But why does he text in the first place??

And no I do not want this guy for anything long term. I know he is a liar, cheater, etc. I just miss the meetings between us. Part of me wants to see him and another part doesn't. I know I will get bashed for this but he is also married.

All I want to know is what is he doing??

[~Christina]

You will never know why he does what he does. Really no point trying to figure him out. You had a sexual relationship only. Don't waste your time trying to figure out this.

You can control your side .... stop responding text, email , anything.

It's not hard at all for a woman to typically find a FWB

[Crazy Hitch]

I'd say just let it be and move on.

[Rose76]

I can't even come up with a guess . . . but I'll try. Maybe he did find someone for awhile, and then it ended and then he found someone again (or the same person.)

Maybe, back when he first distanced himself, he thought you were getting a little serious and didn't want that. But it's odd that he would go away, come back and go away again.

It might be best to just withdraw completely yourself. My guess is that you're not the only woman he's doing on the side.

[TishaBuv]

Booty call. Stupid, messed up guy. Creep.

[fijiisland]

maybe his new girlfriend dumped him. So he texted me. but then he got her back.
adhd sounds like a good one too.
he is messed up. I just always want to get in the head of a guy.

Player is all I can say, He wants to know he still has you if he needs you, That reassurance in his mind, You deserve better way better, Find some one who loves you all the time not part time

Games that is all they are and they just mess with your head and your heart, Get rid of him, Dont be a convience for him when he wants you, You take control not the other way around, Your attitude should be I Run This, Good luck and keep your spirits high, You deserve way better then his occasional crumbs he throws down to you

[gothicpear]

You say you always want to get in the head of a guy.

It sounds like you want to be the one that nobody can forget or get over.

While that sounds romantic in movies, it isn't so much in real life.

I would imagine you're in his head. He keeps creeping back into your life after being gone for a while, so you're in his head all right. Is that a healthy place to be? Probably not. Look at his track record.

This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. Is that what you want? Is your goal to have someone you see every now and then, or do you want a serious, longterm relationship? Figure out what you want. Then don't let a player distract you from it. He's a player. He isn't longterm material, and people who play games like this one actually do damage to a person's heart.

Who wants that?

[fijiisland]

I never thought of it like that- me wanting to be the one nobody can forget. I think you are right about that.
I am just desperate. Eventually I want to find a long term person. He was just always there on the side.

[fijiisland]

Ok, so now he is texting me again. This time I have not responded. ughhhh.

[Open Eyes]

I never thought of it like that- me wanting to be the one nobody can forget. I think you are right about that.
I am just desperate. Eventually I want to find a long term person. He was just always there on the side.

This is most likely exactly how it is for him too.

[Sunflower123]

Leave this guy in your rear view mirror and find someone who deserves you. If he cheated on his wife, chances are he cheated on you. You don't need that. If he texts, ignore it or better yet block him and move on.

[TishaBuv]

Doesn't it feel self esteem building to not respond to the creep?