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May 21, 2017, 04:53 AM
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I'm 36 years girl not marry and my family not giving chance for me and the man I love to talk and they not agree for our marriage because he had bad past things he did it over 10 years ago
They don't want to listen to us at all and we want to get marry they act like I'm still lettle girl and I feel so depressed because I can't tell them how I feel and how much I'm in love with that person and I spend many time thinking that how life not fair at all thinking about killing myself thinking how much I want to disappear I don't know what I can do and I don't want to lose this love |
 MickeyCheeky, Skeezyks, Sunflower123
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May 21, 2017, 07:11 AM
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What did he do in the past?
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May 21, 2017, 07:25 AM
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I'm sorry you are in this situation. I wanted to let you know you'll find lots of support on this forum. I can't even begin to give you advice because the culture and norms of Egypt are so different from the US. If you were in the US, I'd feel more confident giving you advice. I hope things work out for you and your love and I'm here if you need to talk. Thinking of you....
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May 21, 2017, 07:38 PM
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Hello Marwa: Since this is your first post here on PC,
 to PsychCentral!  I'm sorry you are in this most difficult situation.  As others have mentioned, it's difficult to offer advice since I presume you face some social & cultural pressures we in the U.S. & other western countries would not face. From our perspective, at 36, you would be an adult many times over & it would be expected, in most cases, that you would make your own decisions. That said... it seems to me, regardless of the social & cultural pressures you may be under, you basically have two choices. One is to defy your family & go with the man you love, if this is even a possibility for you.  The other is to abide by your family's wishes & let your love go.  Either way this is going to be emotionally traumatizing for you.  So if there is a possibility of you seeing some type of counselor or mental health therapist with whom you can talk through what you are feeling, perhaps that might help at least ease the pain if nothing else. Perhaps someone like that might also be in a position to speak with your family on your behalf, or at least help you to figure out if there is a better way to approach this situation. And also please keep posting here on PC. Writing about what you're going through can help too. There can be a lot of support available here on PC.  I wish you well... 
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May 21, 2017, 07:51 PM
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May 22, 2017, 01:11 AM
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I see your location is Egypt. Egypt if I remember right has a different way of doing things then america... here in america when children become adults they dont have to listen tot heir parents and can make their own choices. Egypt if i remember my history has a system where adult women must mind their parents until they marry and then their husband is the one in control.
the reason I bring this up is because normally I would suggest that you might be able to move away from your parents home , get a place of your own and in turn be able to make your own decisions. unfortunately this would not work if your parents are in control of your decision making rights until you marry. maybe you and your parents can sit down with a therapist and talk about what kind of life they expect you to have vs what kind of life and love you want and maybe somewhere in the middle will be a great compromise that you, your parents and the laws in your location can work together. |
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May 22, 2017, 04:31 AM
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Can you move out of home and just marry him? And cut all ties with your family? Move far away.
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