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Jun 24, 2004, 12:00 PM
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Last night I had one of those sleepless nights. Our 4 year old was sick and would cry for a little bit, then stop then go back to sleep .... most of the night went like that ...
During one of his crying spells my husband yelled from the room: What are you doing to him?! I told him he wasn't feeling right (headache and runy nose). When he cried again my husband again asked what I was doing to him. I was trying to give him some medicine to help him feel better. He said it sure sounded like I was doing something to him so he was going to take over ... Thank goodness my boy cried: "mooommmmmmy" and he realized my precious one wanted to be with me. My husband used to be mean to me most of the time not around the kids, but lately, he's doing it in front of the kids. He knows I don't want yelling and screaming and fighting in front of them, so I won't answer back ... Maybe it is good, so the kids start seeing his true colors ... what a shame! gab
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Jun 24, 2004, 02:14 PM
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So sorry to hear this, is it possible your husband has some issues he needs to address?
Sounds to me he was trying to get your child to think "mommy is doing something wrong", by him asking you "what are you doing to him"? I may be off on this thought so please pardon me, it was just something that crossed my mine as I read your post. I get a small impression your husband may be a controlling guy? You say maybe it is good the kid is getting to see hubby's true colours, but it would be ashame if this tension continues for the kid's sake and you both. I do not know the answer, but would suggest you talk to a therapist as to find out what to do to help nix this behaviour, communication skills, or if your husband needs some counseling, anger managment? Just sending you some hugs and ideas from the "think tank" to roll around  (((((((((((((((((((((((( gloria )))))))))))))))))))))))) In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend SOLON
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Jun 24, 2004, 03:47 PM
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Gloria, has he ever hit you, slapped you etc?Does hecall you jnames, swear at you? If so, you andyour children need to get out of thathouse asap. please reply I can help you find people in your area to help beth "don't kick the puppy" ~ j.e.p.
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Jun 26, 2004, 02:40 PM
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Abuse usually does step up as time goes on. Unfortunately it does not go away or get better on it's own. Please make sure you know your local women/children in distress hotline number so you can be safe IF it does escalate.
This kind of rage seems to be on the increase... but for whatever it's causes... YOU must not take it nor allow your children to see it or experience it. It won't make them hate him, only hate you that YOU didn't protect them like they trust you to. It will teach them to fear him, and to do things he says over things you say, because they don't fear you. Take care of yourself and kiddos, okay? There are plenty of ppl here that will help you figure it all out... <font color=blue> meditation is a true way to connect to the Source </font color=blue>
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Jun 26, 2004, 04:54 PM
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just so no one gets too worried, i am helping out gloria.
"don't kick the puppy" ~ j.e.p.
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Jun 26, 2004, 06:38 PM
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(((((((Gloria))))))))
I have to admit that your posts about your husband have been worrying me. I have done a lot of work with women who have been verbally and physically abused by their husbands so I am here to help if you need it. Unfortunately it seems as though your husband's behavior has been getting worse as well as his treatment to you and your children. I agree with what others have been saying. Please get some numbers for some women's shelters in your area. They are there to help if you ever needed it. You do not deserve to be treated this way! We are here for you. Jessica <font color=blue> You are in this snowglobe. It is encovered in glass and secure. But one day someone comes and shakes the globe and the pieces go flying everywhere. Now they will eventually settle but they won't be the way they were before and they can never be that way again. </font color=blue>
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Jun 30, 2004, 10:17 PM
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It sounds like you have a scary situation there. I would sure hate for your kids to see his true colors though. it is times like these that couples therapy is in need. hope you consider it.
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Jul 01, 2004, 11:10 AM
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been there, done that .... it is a lost battle.
gab
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