[galeckifan]

I am so upset and hurt right now because this guy I thought was my friend was talking crap about me to a mutual friend and apparently is mad at me and won't talk to me about it. I hate it when people talk about me to mutual friends when they have an issue with or are mad at me but won't talk to me about it and instead avoid me. It's clear that there is nothing I can do if you won't talk to me but instead talk to others about me. My mutual friend had brought up that he and that guy got together because that guy wanted to talk to him about something and when I asked what it was he said he asked him not to talk about it to anyone else and that it was a sensitive subject. I asked is it about me and he said kind of, and I said is he mad about me and he said I dont know how to answer that. which I took to mean he was mad at me. Why? Why wouldnt he just talk to me about what his issue was with me instead of this other mutual friend. And not tell me?
Also, why would you cancel bible study less than 2 hours before it was supposed to start because of the NBA finals?? Do people not know when the NBA finals are until last minute or..? I'm sorry but this isn't right what they are doing, if they are cancelling bible study because of an issue they have with me and keep making excuses to cancel hoping I eventually will stop going. It's dishonest, passive aggressive and unbiblical. Do you think this is the real reason they keep cancelling bible study? Or are their reasons legitimate?

[~Christina]

Is this the new church you are going too ? Or the old one that so many people were upset with you ?

[Artchic528]

I agree with Christina, better to leave that awful church in the dust.

[Sunflower123]

I agree that the guy is being dishonest and passive-aggressive. If he has an issue with you he should bring it to you; nobody else. Unfortunately, a lot of people behave this way.

As to why they keep canceling bible study, the NBA is a poor excuse. Have you looked into any other bible studies to find something more reliable?

[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by galeckifan

I am so upset and hurt right now because this guy I thought was my friend was talking crap about me to a mutual friend and apparently is mad at me and won't talk to me about it. I hate it when people talk about me to mutual friends when they have an issue with or are mad at me but won't talk to me about it and instead avoid me. It's clear that there is nothing I can do if you won't talk to me but instead talk to others about me. My mutual friend had brought up that he and that guy got together because that guy wanted to talk to him about something and when I asked what it was he said he asked him not to talk about it to anyone else and that it was a sensitive subject. I asked is it about me and he said kind of, and I said is he mad about me and he said I dont know how to answer that. which I took to mean he was mad at me. Why? Why wouldnt he just talk to me about what his issue was with me instead of this other mutual friend. And not tell me?
Also, why would you cancel bible study less than 2 hours before it was supposed to start because of the NBA finals?? Do people not know when the NBA finals are until last minute or..? I'm sorry but this isn't right what they are doing, if they are cancelling bible study because of an issue they have with me and keep making excuses to cancel hoping I eventually will stop going. It's dishonest, passive aggressive and unbiblical. Do you think this is the real reason they keep cancelling bible study? Or are their reasons legitimate?

I truly believe that we are not hearing the full story here and only hearing your side without details about what is causing all of this stuff to happen to you. there seems to be a common thread throughout all of your dealings with people in the churches you attend and I have a hard time believing that in all the people of more than one congregation they are all terrible, disloyal and untrustworthy people.

So I will just ask. Do you have an idea why people keep shutting you out? What do you think is the cause of this seemingly repeated situation?

[galeckifan]

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

I agree that the guy is being dishonest and passive-aggressive. If he has an issue with you he should bring it to you; nobody else. Unfortunately, a lot of people behave this way.

As to why they keep canceling bible study, the NBA is a poor excuse. Have you looked into any other bible studies to find something more reliable?

Do you think they are cancelling bible study because of me?

[Molinit]

Originally Posted by galeckifan

Do you think they are cancelling bible study because of me?

This is a recurrent theme with this church and you. What do you think?

[Crazy Hitch]

Nobody can answer if they are cancelling bible study because of you.

They might not be being passive aggressive. There are only certain things that you say to someone's face. They're not going to say: "We're cancelling bible study because of you, ___".

Maybe they just wanted to watch the game. As simple as that.

"And if you didn't hear it from the horse's mouth ... don't listen to the donkey's ***."

That's an idiom by the way and certainly doesn't imply the person who told you is an ***.

He didn't directly answer your question because perhaps you shouldn't have asked it in the first place.

[rdgrad15]

I think you are being a bit paranoid. Don't ruin your reputation again like you did at your old church. I know that sounds harsh but you need to look in the mirror and see if people are really being rude to you or if it is just in your head. And if there are a lot of people being rude to you like you say, then examine your behavior. Perhaps you come off as too needy or strong, from what it seems by reading your previous posts.

[dermald]

I'm not a religious person at all; in fact, I'm a non-believer. From my perspective, this is the work of someone who is childish, passive-aggressive, and who may not have their own lives worked out. This type of behavior is inexcusable and unacceptable in ANY adult situation.

From a religious standpoint, you might want to consider going elsewhere for your spiritual needs, as this group might have nothing good to offer you. Read "James 1:26," and you'll see what I mean.

It's a toxic situation to abandon to the past. Best of luck.