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Old Aug 06, 2017, 05:46 PM
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I wish I could have a good relationship with my parents. I love them but I don't like them. I shut down around them and I get really sad. They are getting older and it is starting to show. I don't know what it is. I don't know why. My mom really annoys me. My dad is ok but I just don't have much to say to them. I feel really awful for them...they try, but they try with paying for things. And their solution to everything is for me to move back home with my kids. So not the right thing to do. My brother had a long talk with my mom...while on our first and only vacation all together. He brought me up...which he shouldn't have, but he did. I felt really bad for them. I still do and it is weighing on me really bad.
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Old Aug 06, 2017, 05:59 PM
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I know. It's complicated with parents. I can relate.

I wonder if moving back with the kids might be ok idea though?
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Old Aug 06, 2017, 06:21 PM
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No. I don't want to keep the kids from their dad. And I work a lot so having my mom with the kids is just bad. I see how she talks to them and my nephews. Both my parents really. I was having flashbacks of my childhood...it was not cool. Instead of being grandparents and enjoying their grandchildren they are just living their life the way they always do. Same routine...eat and watch tv. Dad on computer all night. They feel they need to dicipline the kids and they don't and they shouldnt...honestly I was so happy to see them together having fun...we never had cousins around ever...who cares if someone spilled something...its not the end of the world, but it pulled away from their routine...but like I said...I feel awful...this whole trip was because my dad wanted us all together before he can't do it anymore. But also my brother kept saying bad things and was trying to get me to agree. his wife asked me, his friend asked me a couple of months ago. they seem so nice and sweet and provided a good home...but it was hell. But I am trying to just think about the good things, there were quite a bit...I just don't like to hurt their feelings...
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Old Aug 07, 2017, 05:13 AM
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It's okay that you love them but don't like them. I feel the same way about one of my family members. You could limit your exposure to them. When you are in their company, you could be respectful and diplomatic. You have your own life to live and your children to think of. Best wishes.
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Old Aug 07, 2017, 03:54 PM
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My relationship with mine is so dysfunctional I don't even know where to start.
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Old Aug 07, 2017, 04:34 PM
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Im sorry your dealing with something that I swear effects more people day by day, Very upsetting on all levels.
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Old Aug 18, 2017, 11:27 PM
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Moving back to your parents' home is not a good solution . . . if you have a better one. They are giving you an option to consider, which is rather nice of them.

You don't want to keep the kids from "their dad" (who doesn't even support them) because why?

I agree, nobody should "discipline" your kids, but you. You work a lot, so do you need this man around mainly as a babysitter?
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