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Old Jul 04, 2017, 01:29 AM
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So, maybe it's just the "curse" of the introvert, but one thing I don't know what to make of, is this feeling of detachment. I feel it in almost all settings and with alost everyone except for my boyfriend. When I'm with him I feel 100% present and experience life in the fullest.

That's why when I am in any other setting or situation the difference is big.
You might know the feeling, you don't really feel you are in your body but sort of you are a bit further away watching yourself in any situation, and not experiencing 100% the things you are doing.

The thing is I feel this with my parents and friends as well. I am there for them, listening offering advise, hugging and seemingly having fun and doing things with them, but in all reality I feel so distant it scares me. I am afraid they might feel it as well and get hurt but just don't say anything, but it is something that scares the hell out of me.

Does anyone else feels like this? And if yes, how do you cope with it? Have you found anything that helps? Do people around you realize there is something off?
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Old Jul 04, 2017, 05:59 AM
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It's good you have your boyfriend to connect with. Have you ever thought about going to a therapist to get to the bottom of this? Good luck.
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Old Jul 04, 2017, 06:03 AM
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I think I feel the same way.. :/ Sorry you're struggling with this. At least you have your boyfriend.. are you in therapy?
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Old Jul 04, 2017, 06:34 AM
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You are disassociating from being in the present because something must have happened to you in your past where you were so frightened that you didn't know how to be in the now and "feel" yourself in the moment.
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Old Jul 04, 2017, 06:53 AM
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Therapy is out of the question right now unfortunately. I have rent, bills, grad school tuition and my salary barely covers these.
Regarding what open eyes said, I really don't think so. No traumatic events, no abuse of any kind, I've actially had a pretty standard and nice life, which makes me feel a bit guilty for even dealing with these issues.
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Old Jul 04, 2017, 10:09 AM
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I feel similarly pretty much constantly. It's like viewing the world from over my own shoulder. There but not quite. Although for me there is also the sense is of being displaced. Being in the wrong place,time,body.

Whilst my upbringing was pretty screwy, I wouldn't say it ever constituted traumatic, or particularly abusive, besides I remember always feeling like this from when I was very small.

I just kind of gave up on getting an answer. My pdoc offenders but after very very long talks he hasn't a conclusion. I am not even convinced there is one. I am not down particularly, I feel empathy. I am able to interact an communicate it's just everything feels somehow removed.

No one ever seems to notice, not even my partner who has known me for years, so I figure it just us what it is.
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Old Jul 06, 2017, 03:56 PM
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I feel similarly pretty much constantly. It's like viewing the world from over my own shoulder. There but not quite. Although for me there is also the sense is of being displaced. Being in the wrong place,time,body.

Whilst my upbringing was pretty screwy, I wouldn't say it ever constituted traumatic, or particularly abusive, besides I remember always feeling like this from when I was very small.

I just kind of gave up on getting an answer. My pdoc offenders but after very very long talks he hasn't a conclusion. I am not even convinced there is one. I am not down particularly, I feel empathy. I am able to interact an communicate it's just everything feels somehow removed.

No one ever seems to notice, not even my partner who has known me for years, so I figure it just us what it is.
Yes! That's more or less how it has been for me, altgough I think it began when I was 17...

I really hope a therapist will be able to help with this someday...
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Old Jul 06, 2017, 04:22 PM
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Hi. I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I've been there before, but I didn't have a SO to help me be present and vulnerable with her or myself. It sounds like you and your boyfriend have a solid connection, but I was wondering if you'd spoken to him about feeling this way?

It sounds like you're detached or maybe dealing with depression or some sort of emotional repression. Seeking out therapy could be really helpful here. Maybe this is just me, but I think it can be problematic to feel as if you're source of happiness is just one person and they're the only thing that makes you feel present and focused.

Could you expand at bit more on how you feel when you're with other people besides your boyfriend? Are you afraid or shy?
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