Im so scared

Recently i got to know a new person online. i immediately felt able to be honest and i completely opened up, probably as i have never done before. but thinking more about it all, i can feel she doesnt trust me as much as i immediately trusted her and this makes me wonder "if she doesnt trust me, why should i trust her?" and this opened up a huge HUGE fear of what might happen. i see not much can actually happen, but im used to living safe in my isolated world and this is very scary for me. i have no reason to push her away, but i feel the urge to do so. maybe this is just my reaction to opening up, but still....

PLEASE, someone tell me this is gonna be ok and i dont need to push her away for no reason except my fears... please, i need to calm down...

Whenever we feel this emotional about something the best course of action is to do nothing. Do not make a move, send a message, defriend, delete accounts, etc. You will either feel better or make the right move after you have "slept on it" and feel less emotional....

I agree with Hopingtrying. Take it easy until you've slept on it.

Thank you both for answering.

Hopingtrying, your advice is very wise and helpful, thank you so much.

I have made rash decisions when I was sick and regretted them the next day.

As stated above, take a pause before doing anything major.

It is not possible, IMHO, to "get to know" someone online. It is only possible to become vaguely acquainted. An online persona is an edited presentation. Furthermore, whether online or IRL, knowing someone takes time. Really knowing someone takes lots of time.

You have an image in your mind of this person. That image is as much a product of your imagination as it is who this person really is. So you decided that this person was nice and trustworthy and someone good to confide in . . . partly because you've been needing someone like that to come along. You've been needing to unburden yourself of a lot to "someone." No harm there. You did so and felt better.

But now reality has sunk in. You don't know this person. So I'm not going to tell you that this is going to be okay. Only time will tell. Maybe it will, and maybe it won't. You'll just have to wait and see.