[mayshan]

I wanted to add more to my earlier post as i dont feel i told you guys enough for some really in depth advice.

My boyfriend and i have been together for almost 3 yrs he lives in a different state now as he works away so we dont see each other much.

He can be the most amazing man i have ever met and he is the love of my life. However if i have a few beverages and i get a little insecure about things then all that goes out the window and he can get ruff, he has only done this on a few occasions but the last being the worst, he has never actually hit me but many other things. He then says that i need to think about the time line of what just happened and i caused it, which im sure i caused him to get angry.

He then appologises and gets upset at him self and tells me i bring out the best and the worst of him.

Im just so confused because i want to move to be close to him but i dont know if this is a bad idea and should just cut it away now while i can.

PLEASE HELP, i know only i can make up my mind but your help is so good!!

xoxoxox

[lenjan]

Abusers always make the victim think it's his or her fault. BUT IT'S NOT.

You don't deserve the abuse. You didn't earn it. It's only going to escalate, because that's the way those things work (speaking from experience). Get out now while you still can! Then find a therapist who can help you understand your worthiness of so much more.

Good luck.