[bpforever1]

I have bipolar and just met someone with BP also. He is separated and is doing ok now. He and I get along well. We went out on a date and also had sex. I am quite hypersexual and so is he. He and I work. He is seeking a divorce from his wife he says because she cheated on him. However, I am not sure if this is true. I just have taken his word. He chats with me on social media. He is quite stressed from being a day trader so he can't always be in contact with me. I don't have any friends and want him to be my friend and lover. I like him much. He has a past history of hurting himself in order to kill himself. He also had a stroke. I was wondering if anybody else out there has had a relationship with another bipolar person and how is it going? Is it difficult? I had a prior relationship with a person with schizophrenia and it was awful. The person could not care for himself, and it ended in divorce. I married him thinking I could care for him but could not since I could not even care for myself. This time I want it to work but believe I should not marry. Should I tell him that I don't want to marry him? We just met. I thought I wait until we get really serious. Or, should I tell him now? What do people advise? Thank you!!

[Sunflower123]

Since you just met him I don't think now is the time to tell him you won't marry him. Just enjoy each other's company and see how it plays out. Good luck and best wishes.

[healingme4me]

I wouldn't broach the topic so soon. Maybe after knowing him for a while longer?

[bpforever1]

Thank you both for your advice!!

[MickeyCheeky]

I agree. Stick around, see if you like him and if you think the relationship could work

[divine1966]

Well to all honesty he is still married.

[Travelinglady]

Hubby and I are both bipolar. Neither of us knew we were until later in our marriage, though. We'll be celebrating our 29th year of marriage this month. We do struggle with depression and I have to admit I get on his case when he just lies around, not doing anything. But we both are faithful to each other, to our meds, and to our mental-health appointments. It's not the "perfect" issue in a marriage.

I personally would be bothered by dating/having sex with a married man, especially when he tells me his wife has been unfaithful. And what caused his stroke? How is his physical health? Is he properly medicated and seeing mental-health professionals? Why did he tell you all these things so early in the relationship?

I definitely would be slow in any commitment to him, as the other folks say.

[bpforever1]

Originally Posted by Travelinglady

Hubby and I are both bipolar. Neither of us knew we were until later in our marriage, though. We'll be celebrating our 29th year of marriage this month. We do struggle with depression and I have to admit I get on his case when he just lies around, not doing anything. But we both are faithful to each other, to our meds, and to our mental-health appointments. It's not the "perfect" issue in a marriage.

I personally would be bothered by dating/having sex with a married man, especially when he tells me his wife has been unfaithful. And what caused his stroke? How is his physical health? Is he properly medicated and seeing mental-health professionals? Why did he tell you all these things so early in the relationship?

I definitely would be slow in any commitment to him, as the other folks say.

Yes, I understand what you are driving at because I am not sure either if he is telling the truth about being separated and his wife having cheated on him. He used to smoke which caused his stroke. He does not smoke now. He says he takes his meds morning and night and is seeing a pdoc. I think he told me all of his issues early since he just wanted to unload and wanted to see if I would accept him as he is. I still chat with him on social media but nothing too serious. I met him on a online dating service and he stated in his profile he is separated. He may be telling the truth about himself. He works from home since he is a day trader. Thus, he contacts me throughout the day. I want him to be my friend and lover. Most men I meet just want a sex buddy. I am not young and most men my age are married with kids. This is a fact. He is almost five years older than I am. Thus, I did not expect him to be single. However, I myself do not want to marry again because of my first bad marriage. I also am not in the position to marry now since my parents may need help. I don't expect him at this point to ask me about marriage. So, I am not worried. I think all the advice I received here is good. Thank you!! I will take it as it comes and just accept the current situation as is.