Need advice from an outside perspective on a situation I'm in.

Honestly we just don't want you to get hurt. You keep saying your dont want to hurt others. But you are the one getting hurt by these wrong men. Just please be careful. Playing video games is fun but it's not real life. You can't get to know him on a deep level just because you play diablo.

Now if you don't want to end it why not meet first rather than moving? What type of career does he have that he thinks of getting transferred to the states? Is he an engineer? Scientist? He can't just get transferred with whatever career. He won't get work visa.

If he is suffering from horrible anxiety in his own land, do you think he is capable of moving himself across the ocean, getting a job, place to live and get situated in a foreign land? I immigrated to the US from Europe. It's not easy even without anxiety. How is he going to do this? You don't drive. Who is going to get him places? Is he able to buy a car? Right away?

I don't think he is thinking it through.

Explaining this further is above my pay grade or expertise. I said what I think but you are right. You're an adult who can make her own decisions. If your own decision making skills have served you well for 33 years then by all means, continue doing as you've been doing. I told you what I think but I don't presume to know everything. I'm just a lady on the internet who cared enough to spend my time trying to help. Be smart (which I know you are) and be safe. Best wishes.

You can make some of your of decisions, but if you live with your parents and rely on their financial support You can't offer to let him stay with you while you foot the ball. To ask your parents to live with you and support him would be unfair (and honestly kind of selfish). The reality of the situation is that you don't really have the ability to be with this guy IRL until you can afford to have your own place and/or travel to see him. That doesn't mean you have to stop talking to him; just keep it virtual until either you or him is self-sufficient.

If it's all online it's not real. It doesn't exist. And if someone decides he's going to "come to America to be with" you on the basis of online interaction, that's beyond reason and is a huge red flag as to the state of his mind.

His state of mind might be ok if his goal is green card (not uncommon), it's not nice but doesn't mean there is anything wrong with him

What exactly do you mean by "not nice"?

Well I wanted to use more explicit term. Didn't want to be rude but it's "not nice" if his goal is to "to be with you" just to get a green card. I am not saying that's the case. Just "if".

If it's not the case then he is very clueless and lives in la la land. No education, no career and no experience and he will build his new life in a foreign country with a woman whom he never met. That's not adult decision on his part. No one buys one way tickets to be with someone they have never met.

Now much more reasonable would be to meet each other first without permanent move and see if you compatible. It's also important that one of you or both are independent/have your own place and means to support themselves etc otherwise it's just a fantasy.