[matt__]

Hi, Pretty new here.

I started going out with my current girlfriend 5 months ago. We both live a few hours apart and have made consist efforts see each other, have fun together and communicate well.
She is a very quiet and reserved person, however has opened up to me on a number of personal issues, which I am currently trying to better understand.

Given this, I am finding it very hard to speak with her about our relationship, she seems to try and avoid talking about what it is called in public (girlfriend/boyfriend) and has left me very confused and stressed, as one moment we'd be very intimate and the next she'd be deflecting.

This is also causing me to unexplainably offering to help her in every possible way, to the point where I think it might be having a negative effect on our relationship.

She is moving away for 10 months with work and I am worried I shouldn't leave her on a bad not, but don't know how to address it..

Appreciate any help.. thanks

[eskielover]

Welcome to PC. This is a good place to get varied ideas & input about things we wonder about. Hope you find it helpful. This is a wonderful & caring community. Hope you find helpful support & input to help you come to the conclusionsbyouvare looking to resolve in your life.

If she isnt comfortable with labeling your relationship BF/GF, she has a reason. I wouldn't push it but I also wouldnt allow a level of ohysical intimacy to go to that point either. Fun & communication is good & if it grows into BF/GF great. At 5 months it verybeasily coukd be too soon for her to feel comfortable with that label especislly with her work/career taking her away for 10 months. She may not feel sure about her own futures direction & may not feel right tying either of you into a labeled relationship.

I wouldnt worry about it. Chill & just sit back & see where therelationship goes. Communicate to let her know you care & see how she responds without pushing anything. Time will tell & she will let you know. If you arent interested in waiting for her then that is your issue you need to deal with.

[Sunflower123]

Hello. Welcome to PC. I agree with eskielover. Good luck.

[Teddy Bear]

Welcome to PC

[MickeyCheeky]

I agree with eskie; perhaps she just doesn't feel comfortable yet. Keep waiting and working on it..

[Erebos]

Welcome,
I pretty much agree with eskie, take a step back, enjoy what you have and try not to worry about what it is or isn't.
I might add my fella does this 'helping ' thing. He tries to help me with things I have managed perfectly well before him. And although I know he is only trying to help, it makes me feel like he thinks I am incapable, on a bad day it can make me feel he thinks I am stupid.

Rationally I know I am being silly, but if we were all rational all the time, we wouldn't be here.

All the best.