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Old Aug 28, 2017, 09:28 PM
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I laid down some ground rules for the Hungarian dude in my life. I told him if he wants to meet me IRL he needs to book a hotel when he comes over here, and to plan on making it a vacation/holiday or something. That way we don't have all the pressure to make things work the first time we meet.

I sort of got fried with his always wanting to talk, so have made contact via email for the last few days. I needed space, and I think he needed time to reaccess his approach.

I don't know exactly what is going to happen, or what will come of this, but at least I'm trying to be reasonable and safe. Right?
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Old Aug 29, 2017, 03:41 AM
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You did everything right. I hope everything works out for you.
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Old Aug 29, 2017, 05:59 AM
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That was smart, and you are looking out for your best interests. Good to take space if it's too much, and it's great that he has to stay in a hotel. Definitely best to take the pressure off -- congrats on setting good boundaries! =)
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Old Aug 29, 2017, 12:36 PM
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Smart move
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Old Aug 29, 2017, 04:44 PM
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Good plan
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Old Aug 29, 2017, 07:35 PM
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I think so too you made fair and reasonable rules, boundaries. Seems like your playing it cautiously ie treading carefully. Unsure what else to write since unfamiliar with IRL. My hunch is you feel you need to know him better before you proceed.
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Old Aug 30, 2017, 01:42 AM
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Making all the right decisions. Good to hear your looking out for yourself first.
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Old Aug 30, 2017, 03:31 AM
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Good to hear you took these steps to set your boundaries. Good work!!!
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